You’re not wrong; I was merely objecting to the idea that this room of people has no control or say in the racial makeup of their cast and crew.

Eh, kind of. Hard to vote with your dollar if you aren’t given choices.

Sure - my BA is in film production, so even though didn’t stay in the industry, most of my friends are in the biz. (I live in LA).

Point taken, but I guess my thinking is that higher ups could specify that they want a more diverse, representative cast, or else not tolerate such thorough whitewashings. I understand that managers and casting directors are the first line of defense, so to speak, but they’re clearly not the most powerful or…

I think that’s kind of the point. It was designed to make them uncomfortable.

Haha, who do you think tells those casting directors and agents what kind of talent they’re looking for? Producers and film directors are absolutely not beholden to the whims of casting directors.

1. It is substantially different. Not because of any supposed inherent, strict biological differences, but because of how we’re socialized. Girls and boys are absolutely treated differently, at every stage of development - not just by their parents, but by everyone in their life. I don’t like it, or think it’s right,…

Tbh it feels petty and “gotcha” coming from a dude. I don’t disagree with him, but I’m wary of men who contribute to intracommunity stuff in that way.

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I don’t see anyone saying that, though. I don’t see that in the pulled quote and I don’t see it in the article. I think that complication is acknowledged. I guess my point is that Maddox’s perspective is her own, and that’s important, but imo it should be treated as an outlier and not as a yard stick.

For the sake of administrability and our collective sanity, I think 18 as the age of adulthood/maturity is a fair one. There’s been a fair amount of research on brain development in kids and adults, and all the drug and sex experience in the world does not make up for the neurological deficits 14 year olds have in…

If this choking allegation is true, I think it shows his problem goes beyond infidelity. It’s one thing to pay for sex, it’s another to abuse sexual partners. I think prostitution should be legal too, largely to protect sex workers from opportunistic, power tripping men like Spitzer.

Fwiw, it’s absolutely possible to be unfaithful in an open relationship. Nonmonogamy takes an enormous amount of trust and commitment, and a lot of communicating. I don't think the answer for cheaters is open relationships (necessarily) because they can absolutely still disregard their partner(s) feelings and cross…

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The only thing I find remotely interesting about this is that Kate Hudson’s character has a girlfriend? Maybe? Was I seeing those scenes right?

He was so good in Royal Tenenbaums though! Same with Adam Sandler in Punch Drunk Love. Those movies actually make me angry because you can see they’re both talented, charismatic actors when they give half of a shit/have a good script.

Of course it’s good advice for everyone! Of course OkCupid or Match.com tells everyone to be careful! The whole fucking point of this conversation is that men and women don’t think about this in the same way, because our lived experiences are so different. It’s not about a “strawman”- it’s that you’re talking about…

Well given that you were responding to a quote that was entirely about what men and women are scared of, I guess your argument wasn’t very relevant then? Like I said, this is about societal perceptions - like for instance, there was a study on #1 fears of men and women re: online dating, and the most common response…

Come on dude. This is about widespread societal perceptions. There is no way the average guy is scared of women murdering them/luring them to their deaths, to the extent that women are wary about scary/violent dudes. I’ve never heard a man get the advice to insist on a public meeting spot.

You’re being deliberately obtuse. It’s apparent that the quote is comparing the ways that men and women relate to each other, not that any man a woman meets is going to kill her. When guys go on first dates, their friends don’t tell them to text when they’re home safe, or advise that they go to a public place.