this was nice to read. I was in a very similar position a few years ago- ultimately the first relationship changed into something platonic and the second relationship flourished into the "primary"- we now live together. I was poly for 3 years and there were good and bad parts- as with any relationship. Ultimately, I…

I don't really get how you figure that a man in North Africa 4000 years ago would be light-skinned- but I also don't know what "black by our definition" means..

sounds like you live on the west side! I sympathize

Solas's romance is Fantastic. Not very cutesy or sexual but really beautiful and surprising.

divorce seems like a pretty harrowing ordeal, so it seems unreasonable to assume people do it on a whim.

Yeah the "we haven't decided yet" is such a gross/unnecessary quip, he's a kid.

I'm genuinely disturbed that you think asking writers to respect their characters is the same as demanding they make "art you like". there's nothing unreasonable about holding people accountable for the things they create.

your definition of lofty standards is what some might call a low fucking bar to hop over. Game development is hard. Making games that respect female characters isn't.

So she deserves to have anti Semitic caricatures made in her likeness? What the fuck are you even talking about. "Slightly more accurate than you'd think." What, the hook nose? The greedy palms rubbing together?

I know a Kale in his 40s. He's a Matthew McConahey wannabe and he sucks worse than his name, but it was always more reason to be annoyed by him.

okay but you're completely failing to understand the difference between "looking" and "being so distracted with lust that they can't concentrate in class" which is the presumed justification for not letting girls wear leggings. Girls should be allowed to wear leggings without being held responsible for the educational…

I don't see how this is relevant. They're asking for the right to choose to wear leggings. They're not asking that no one look at their legs.

I really don't see why people can't critique a society in which older men/younger women is FAR more common than the reverse,while still acknowledging that all parties involved are adults. It's not just about consent. I think it's absurd to ignore cultural and economic factors at play in these relationship models, and…

When I was 16 I had a dream that Jeff Goldblum offered to take me away to Paris and he would "take care of everything". And my dream mom and sister were like "yeah hell yeah do it" but I gently told him that I wanted to try to make my own way in the world. I woke up furious at myself and have had an intense crush ever…

Why wouldn't you call them that? His voters are probably almost exclusively white. I don't presume to know your racial identity, but I'm white, and I find the idea of making that kind of distinction (oh they're assholes not regular white people) to be really unproductive and lacking culpability.

I've heard nothing but awful and creepy things about his hook up habits.

I've read multiple (anonymous) posts online saying he is incredibly rough and abusive in sex- girls (young!) who were fans of his band and hooked up with him at concerts. They don't call it rape, but say that he didn't care if they said it hurt or told him to ease up. I know there's no means of "proving" it- and how…

Same with my kitty. Took her to the vet after I noticed she lost a tooth- turns out she had horrible gingivitis :( had to have TWELVE teeth pulled. But now she's happy and playful as ever, eats all the same food.

Which is probably fair, no? Hundreds of people commented on that piece a few weeks ago, because they already knew it was in outrageously poor taste. I'm glad this was posted, but it doesn't really justify or explain that blunder.

It's still pretty condescending to say "it's ok not to let it all hang out, ladies!" I think women with that much power and notoriety have a pretty good handle on their self image. It's not like it never occurred to them to dress less revealingly.