I don't think he is. He's said that if she's happy with Josh, he's happy for them, he's just confused about how she blindsided him and then later acted totally cold toward him and downplayed what they'd had. That's not a Nice Guy thing, that's a Getting Dumped Horribly thing and I'd react the same way.

I was surprised by the cries of "slut-shaming" because I thought everyone KNEW they always have sex in the fantasy suite. It was an open secret.

What he actually said was "Knowing how much I loved you, if you didn't love me, why would you make love with me?" I think that's quite different from asking why she had sex with him without loving him — he's saying she wasn't considerate of his feelings when she had sex with him, knowing he would end up hurt. That may…

Also it's just like... painfully reminiscent of my own biggest heartbreak. If I'd been on national TV during those last conversations, I think it would have gone a lot like that, and sounded a lot like that, so it rings very true to me.

It seems way too wrong of a play to be purposeful to me. I get why people think everything on reality TV must be fake, but they are still real people, living in a bubble with one woman to pine over, and it's not unrealistic that some of them will get attached. I find that more likely in this case than that he's…

I am also a Nick apologist, and the amount of times Josh said he wanted to "make Andi his wife" made me LIVID. I hate that phrase. I wanted to throw things at the TV. He was so possessive and presumptuous and it profoundly turned me off. Nick may not be from Atlanta, but I've never seen a guy so willing to put the…

No, it's definitely not. He'd be playing this wildly wrong. Chris is the one who played this the right way to become the next Bachelor — seem genuine, invested, and hurt to be dumped, but then almost immediately gracious and, soon after, ready to move on. The people who get messy like this don't get picked to become…

That's part of it, sure, but academics are not the only ones who have ethical obligations with regards to experimentation... they're just the ones who are most likely to know about their obligations.

I understand that, but I think "treat others as you'd like to be treated" actually results i a lot of variety. I didn't want rejection emails, and I didn't want to send them. Other people don't mind sending them and are offended if they don't get them. It's a minefield out there. I wasn't surprised or put out when I…

I totally get where you're coming from, but I tend to bridle at the idea that I'm obligated to spend time and energy writing responses to strangers I'm not interested in. Eventually I stopped checking OKC because the feeling of obligation to respond to messages started to seem overwhelming (I'm introverted and phone…

That's nice, but there are ethical standards about this sort of thing, which is why the Facebook experiments were such a scandal. You have to have informed consent from people to conduct psychological experiments on them. "Buried in the ToS that no one reads" doesn't count.

I once stumbled across my ex's profile, and we had something like a 93% compatibility rating. And hey... we had a wonderful friendship, even though the relationship did implode. I wanted my boyfriend to reactivate so I could see our score, but that never happened. I already know we're more compatible in the ways that…

There's a difference between collecting data and artificially altering conditions without informing users in order to get data. Everyone knows OKCupid has always analyzed user interactions to pick out trends, but they didn't always do things like... lie to people about their compatibility scores. Huge difference.

I think the most important thing about both cardigans and blazers is that they be structured, well-fitting, and flatter your shape. A great cardigan is neither better nor worse than a great blazer, though perhaps they are best suited for slightly different social occasions.

I have to agree that it's the combination in The Office as well — the major change I noticed in her "makeover" is that her hair was still curly but smoother and not tightly pulled half-back, and she didn't wear those stiff button-down shirts with huge collars anymore. It wasn't just the cardigans, it was the cardigan…

Maybe you are old-fashioned. It's optional to buy a gift, but I want to know where to do that and I don't want to have to go around pestering the bride or groom's relatives (who I may not even know) to find out where it is. Just put it on the dang website. Telling people directly, by the way, by no means makes it LESS…

I agree. My brother is about to get married to the woman he's lived with for three years, and I don't see why they shouldn't get gifts from older relatives in the form of a real set of china, nice flatware, and linens that they'll be able to use for real adult entertaining. Quality stuff that will last a lifetime.…

Can we trade?? I think my boyfriend looks wayyyy cuter without a beard or stubble (especially because he thinks it looks weird to clean up the neck beard part), and he always teases me about how I "make" him shave for nice events. I want him to look nice and not weirdly double-chinny and schleppy in the photos!

Haha right, men who are married always do a fair amount of housework and there's definitely no social norm whereby they feel entitled to have their wives cook and clean for them and also sleep with them on demand. Of course the OP is lying about that! It would be insane to take her at her word on that! If he loves his…

Statistically single people have less sex than married people, actually: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/04/13/mar…