I think that calling these dumb parties transphobic is a little harsh. I think a better term is binary-centric. Just like when I told a very good friend in law school that he was being hetero-centric, he thought I was saying he was homophobic, which he wasn’t at all. I explained that not disliking queer people is one…

I am choosing to believe that this was total chance and the act of a good person, but will also not be surprised at all if it turns out her cousin’s roommate’s weapon matches the bullet the ended up in the dog walker.

The bigger tragedy is that Gaga’s dog walker had little to no health insurance.

It sounds like you’re in the “I don’t want this to happen” stage and not yet the “I’m angry about this” stage. In hindsight, this is the point I wish I would have talked to my spouse about stuff like this. If I had done it then, it would have been a discussion about how he could help me not be afraid/stressed…

Thanks for the thoughtful response- that’s the most in-depth “review” I’ve seen. Some of the limitations you point out are the ones I’ve seen others mention as well.

Hi Andy—and I applaud you on learning Spanish! Yes, it’s harder to learn languages as we age, but you’re immersed (or will be once you can go out into the world) and that should help. And, well, Spanish is lovely.

Here’s a guy with a really, really low-key job (my sister is a dog-walker) ... it just seems randomly unfair. We don’t know if the dogs were targeted to be held for ransom, or what, and the fact that a human being was violently “discarded” because he got in the way of something so petty as a dog-napping is very…

Hey everyone! We’ve reached the “cats and wine” stage of the evening. I’m trying to devote at least one hour each day to learning Spanish. Man, when I think how relatively easy it was to learn beginner Spanish in high school, and Italian in college, it makes my current pace of learning roughly a slow slog. Alas.

I’m a fairly introverted person, and pre-pandemic (several years ago), I worked a job where I went to the office once a month, max, so working from home hasn’t been a huge deal for the most part (and I’m lucky that I’ve been able to do so with almost no interruption). But even given all that, my brain is starting to…

Did anyone else have a strong emotional reaction to Ryan Fischer (Lady Gaga’s dog walker) getting shot and left for dead? I don’t know what stood out to me so much about that story besides how senseless and violent it all was. I feel so badly for Ryan- how fucking terrifying. I hope he finds peace after this trauma.

Mainly that I had few coping mechanisms for stress, anger, or the unpredictability of life. Simple things like saying a bonehead thing at work and feeling embarrassed and fixating on it over and over in my head, then drowning it away with alcohol, or if I was being “good,” Benadryl so I could fall asleep and stop…

I haven’t read the book, but I’ve listened to some interviews of Holly Whitaker and I’ve enjoyed her viewpoint. She wrote an essay called “The Patriarchy of Alcoholics Anonymous” which, I believe, may be adapted from her book. It encapsulated a lot of the frustration I have with AA. I’ve seen both positive and…

Debris got thrown nearly 300 meters away despite preparatory measures to mitigate including trench work, walls, and 400 tonnes of sand.

Oh God, I hear you so hard on Groundhog Day. Everything you’re describing-the days are just bleeding into each other, and I’m very very fortunate that I get to spend my pandemic with the only person I really want to be with, and that we’re pretty damn safe, but still. I get up, I work online, I eat, I maybe work…

I am not familiar with the book, but I do want to congratulate you on all of the efforts you’ve put towards this challenge, and also for your sobriety achievements. May you continue to find the clarity and peace of mind you seek.

So this happened in this neck of the woods today, Army/Royal Navy detonated what appeared to an old forgotten gift from the Luftwaffe in the form of a 1000kg bomb.

I feel like I’m in a bit of a GroundHog’s Day loop. Same shit just a different day. After almost a year of us being home pretty much 24/7 tho I guess it’s expected. Anyone else getting down like this ? Don’t get me wrong, I’m very grateful we’ve managed to keep day to day life as normal as possible despite everything.…

Hey everyone! I’m a regular commenter but have never posted to SNS.

I’m so proud of the students who spoke up and then shut her down with more grace than she deserved. 

Yeah, I feel bad for the people from BA interviewed. That they took the time and energy to share their story.