The Magicians based on Lev Grossman’s trilogy is like Narnia for grownups: sex, partying, violence. It’s fantasy but there’s plenty of drama and action. The ensemble cast is talented, the dialogue is hilarious, and every character’s outfit is distinctive and consistent. I loved the books and the show does not…

My first job out of college was in a tiny administrative group at a healthcare facility. My boss suddenly had to leave for a couple of weeks and I was so inexperienced that I really struggled. One of the doctors yelled at me and I felt like I was failing at every part of my job.

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That makes me sad for 8 year old you! It also sends the message that your body does not belong to you. :(

That’s repulsive. They don’t even care if their own grandparents die? 

Beautiful. Wishing you continued good health.

This is my take as well. I used to work in a toxic organization led by a narcissist and saw the full range of coping behaviors. Some of them were drinking too much, drinking at work, lots of prescription anxiety and/or depression medications were openly used and shared with others around conference room tables, angry…

I haven’t flown with a cat, but want to warn that fabric carriers will leak pee. I learned that the hard way when transporting my cat to the vet and ended up with a passenger seat soaked in pee. Had to replace the seat and the car still stinks a year later. Now I have a hard-case carrier and will stuff 10 layers of…

Not having a landline anymore, I keep my old cell phone plugged in at home. Just in case I need to make an emergency call and for whatever reason don’t have my activated cell phone on me or can’t get to it. 

I was flying home to the U.S. from a business meeting at one of my company’s European subsidiaries. A few rows up from me was a young woman who was flirting with and trying to kiss the guy next to her, who seemed amused but was definitely not encouraging it. I stop paying attention and a couple hours later my boss…

In my case, the perpetrator was ordered by the criminal court judge to attend weekly AA meetings and I’m not sure if he was ordered or recommended to go to counseling. But the next time around I sat in court listening to his mental health counselor say that he wouldn’t hurt a fly and is not a threat to me. I have…

I’m watching the time limit expire on the protection order I have against a dangerous, unstable man. He knows the police won’t arrest him for doing things like driving on my street if there is no order in place and thinking about it expiring makes me feel hopeless. On top of the trauma that comes from him threatening…

Loved this! 

I have had great luck with Clarks shoes and they will probably have end-of-season sales soon. https://www.clarksusa.com Clarks aren’t super expensive, have comfort options and a big range of sizes and the boots I bought 12 years ago for $100 are still in great shape. I also still have Munro boots from maybe 15 year…

Even with insurance, having to meet a deductible can be hard. I pay around $500 a month for basic insurance I buy on the exchange that covers a few doctors visits. Then I unexpectedly had to have surgery and paid for all of it, $6,300, out of pocket because I hadn’t met the $6,500 deductible yet for co-pays to kick in…

I worked at a place that used to check every piece of content thoroughly and even run it by the legal department before posting. That stopped, and they said the volume of content was so much greater that they just couldn’t scale all those checks, and also that it is possible to update online content after publishing vs…

Polyps can cause irregular bleeding. A vaginal ultrasound can detect them. But like others said, there are a number of things that can cause bleeding like that.

This reminds me of the time I accidentally put a frozen pizza in the oven with the cardboard round still beneath it. I didn’t realize it until I could not get the pizza cutter to slice through it. 

My worst meal was this past Thanksgiving. I overcooked the sweet potatoes in butter and brown sugar, turning them to mush. I panicked and sent my partner to the store to buy more and then ruined the casserole-style attempt by adding the egg/condensed milk mixture into too hot sweet potatoes, cooking the egg.

I hope the inconsistencies referred to aren’t based on fears of women seeming less credible when the try to maintain positive relationships with their abusers. It would be helpful to shine a light on how many women are nice to their abusers out of fear, or try to cope with abuse by attempting to create a more positive…