Good job on this, BTW. I’ve totally been there. It’s worse when people try to bait you “so and so was saying such and such!” and I finally had to tell people — I don’t like to talk or hear about her anymore, no matter what. That worked.

Oh my god, no. My dad’s sisters (in their 60s) are constantly playing stupid games like that. My mom always tries to stay out of it but usually one or the other isn’t talking to someone else in the family (usually each other). >_>

I sort of wish we were all still back in 8th grade for just one day. So the collective on this thread could find this bitch in the girls bathroom before math class and give her the ass kicking she so richly deserves.

Junior high? Jesus. This was the kind of shit people in my life pulled in elementary school. It was fucked up and it took me years to realize the impact it had on me.

Something like that actually happened to me in 8th grade. My dad told me “Supernova, sometimes people are just going to be assholes to you. They’ll want to hurt you and push you down because it makes them feel better about their shitty little lives. Piss them off baby and rise. Rise up so high you can’t hear them…

...and the witches’ brooms they all rode in on!

Omg, I just want to give you a big hug!! That is awful, awful, awful. Good for you for the final cutting of all ties with her today.

Aaaaaaahhhhhhhh! <— the sound of my mind ssnapping in two.

That’s absolutely fucking horrible. I’m so, so, so sorry that they behaved like that. What an utterly toxic thing to do.

I’m sorry they were special to you, but based on how they’re acting here, it sounds to me like they were really just tag-alongs. Friends who truly care about you don’t play along with groupthink bullshit. Good riddance—you’re better off without high school drama.

Oh, she is. She has three kids, and all three have run from her house as soon as they were able. Maybe I should be grateful to be out from under her thumb, too.

I think he stayed because my brother also showed up at the bar, and he felt bad about leaving. He’s pretty clueless about some things, and he told me that he mostly just hung out with my brother and talked to the other husband some. He did not interact with the women at all, and he made sure to tell me that. I don’t…

Ugh what a cooooooooooooooooze, my stomach hurts from reading that. The other ones are lame as shit and obviously scared of her. You deserve so, so, so much better. Rock on with your rad self and your friends who don’t suck!

Thank you so much, I can totally use them :) I have been cultivating new friends and nourishing old ones, and I’m getting back to happy. Last night was just such a blow and I’ve been reeling, but tomorrow, I’ll be at brunch with someone who cares deeply about me, drinking mimosas, so hey - fuck that bitch!

Haha, I try to be. You have no idea the restraint I’ve practiced lately with her posts. And I deleted her contact to keep me from sending her an ass-rending text telling her, in bullet points, how I’ve felt about every single thing she’s done to me.

Thankyou, and I do have other friends, but this one, these group of women, we’re special to me. I was out with someone else last night having a fantastic time, and she can just go fuck herself. My poor husband just stood there and didn’t even know what to say to me. He has rarely seen me cry, so I’m sure he was…

I just wanted to send you an internet hug. All the internet hugs. It’s unfathomable that someone could be that juvenile, petty, and shitty! All the best,and all the support and joy to you in the moving-on process.

You sound so much more mature than her. Fuck her!!! You deserve an awesome best friend instead of this horror.

That’s absolutely insane. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with such crap. I hope you do find those better people soon.

Recovering addicts can lash out horribly at others. They turn their self-hating outwards. At least, that’s what I’ve seen from the addicts in my life. They may not be using, but the issues they have are still there.