my mom has it. she is so far removed from reality and has made up so many heinous stories to convince herself i’m the villain that i refuse to see or speak to her again ever

i feel like a lot of people are forgetting the difference between the way a dress photographs and the way it looks in person? like...it was an almost unrealistically beautiful day and that much sunshine with white silk means the photos won’t hide ANYTHING. the ceremony dress was perfect for what it needed to be; the…

how was the perfect nanny? i almost bought it this week but picked up tyrant: shakespeare on politics instead.

when i moved home for a brief stint between cities about a year and a half ago, i was roughly 50lbs lighter than i’d ever been, and my cousin’s husband would send their three year old into my room to say “why are you so fat?” (at the time i was 5’8”, 190lbs, size 10) so i would clapback “i’m a swimmer, my fat ass…

i get the impulse to not make those who want kids feel worse about it but i also am a huge advocate of being loud about your pain to get the help you need. yes, it’s tragic for those who have fertility issues but that’s all what *could* happen...your pain is effecting your quality of like now, as is, so be vocal…

one of the nurses who administered the shot promised me that real menopause will be nothing like the lupron, because menopause is a severe reduction in estrogen, not total absence of it but as is, and not to be dramatic, i cried when my new gyn told me last year that i may need another course or two before menopause.…

you’re very welcome! and this dude sounds like a keeper and moving to nyc was the best thing i’ve ever done so...maybe it’s sonething to look forward to/work towards... ☺️

you’re welcome— also if you can get your doctor to prescribe them you can use FSA/HSA to buy them (but if you are looking for relief and can afford the $70ish for a bottle they are OTC so you could try it out on your own instead of waiting...nice thing about probiotics is it’s almost impossible to overdo it and you’ll…

oh gurl— as someone who is in therapy with an amazing therapist who emphasizes the gestalt method, i am fairly confident that #2 and #3 are what’s bugging you the most. #2 simply because your body is not accustomed to that sort of treatment and even though it is the kind of treatment you deserve your body is not used…

i have celiac disease and was recommended VSL-3 probiotics. you can get them (they are pricy) on amazon but they were designed for IBS and UC.

had a total hysterectomy two years ago to save my ovaries because all of my previous surgeries involved removing huge adhesions from my right ovary and restoring blood flow from it being strangled— i never wanted kids but because i was 33 at the time i was really concerned about losing my ovaries and the effect on my…

we had insane weather here last week— we started needing coats, ended at 90°+ AND the pollen was at 10+ (out of 12) the whole time— on top of traveling and coming down from the good sexing, keep that in mind— be nice to yourself and give yourself a little leeway in settling back into your normal life!

krs is crazy religious now which in and of itself isn’t bad but his music has suffered.

i’m leaning toward not because anyone cute, young and naive (or you know, alive in general) shouldn’t have to expose themselves to that sort of toxicity/be told they are responsible for helping their partner become a civil, well-adjusted member of society. in the article he wrote on legalizing sex work the other day,…

i started washing my face with ice cold water because pharrell (bitch don’t age) says that’s the secret to keeping both pores and age in check. i was like OH NO when you said hot water but then you finished with cold water and i was like OH PHEW, lady knows what’s up. ☺️

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so i have a general recommendation to share with any fellow jezzies who struggle with the aftermath of childhood/developmental trauma: a book my therapist recommended called “healing tasks: psychotherapy with adult survivors of child abuse” by james kepner. you can find copies of both the first and second editions…

that bebeh is serving FACE! i’m sure she’s not that chill all of the time but those are beautiful photos. congratulations!

that’s the charitable read— everyone who knows her who’s seen the pic is like “why is she always so proud of her vagina?!”

i am reading how not to die (the one about food) on the recommendation of my therapist to help me make good food choices amongst my allergies and tendency to starve myself as punishment (her theory is if i can’t always control how much i’m eating i can make the most impactful nutrition choices when i do eat) and last…