I believe that you’re not trying to excuse anything. Being able to appreciate how the cycle of abuse could impact someone’s thinking at this point in time doesn’t really give the abusive or the abused persons much credit though and makes it sound like we don’t know how the two can be interrelated.

It’s surprising nurses specifically are held to that standard, for the care to be “inherent” and omnipresent. Other professions aren’t held to that standard. Not caring isn’t what killed this kid. What did was a persistent lack of accountability regarding competency for healthcare professionals.

Lot of comments about nurses being crazy/saying crazy things, but father was a physician’s assistant, a discipline with prescribing ability.

Yeah, her choice of citations demonstrates why that isn’t a proof. Having read things, being educated on things, doesn’t validate a conclusion. Only two of the groups of people she cited on the above list have the authority to speak to the validity of their identity. Any of the specialists she cited, if not a complete…

This was my favorite part, where “favorite” means “most wtf”:

But De Blasio’s save is healthcare.

I honestly can’t imagine what it would be like to not have a companion of your choice while giving birth. I really don’t want to minimize that as I say any of this, but knowing about this ahead of time could give people time to prepare and mitigate trauma, to the extent even possible. But they’re trying to prevent othe…

That could be true, and we triage based on need. But that doesn’t mitigate the risk we’re trying to prevent. Hospitals own both the policies that encourage companions in every other situation, and they also own the policies that rule this more important than that other policy, in this very limited situation.

Rely is a strong word for it. They will use them if present, but they don’t need them to be there. They will do what every other nurse in a hospital does in the absence of a birthing companion: Do it themselves or ask for another nurse or nurse tech to help.

Agreed and it’s especially difficult for healthcare providers who are aware of those risks, but have a rule like this in place to prevent other things, like death, then some asshat says things like...

All great and valid points. It would have been nice if the article included that context.

Cool strawman, but being hurt is not what’s immature. Being hurt, then subsequently using massively disproportionate power granted by being famous and having a social media accout, to unleash a torrent of shaming at a young woman who simply didn’t like a book or author is the problem.

I was trying to imply that’s all they should stay, and still be contrite. The extra is what makes it come across as not contrite and insincere. Have you never had an insincere apology? The interview reads like “I’m sorry, but...” Which is not contrite.

I don’t disagree that the quotes above appear positive.

And if they lie about it under oath 30 years later, frothing at the mouth with self-righteous anger, that’s intentional and they know the impact.

Intent can matter. I think the response of people around you is more important though. If you thought doing something that someone else found traumatizing was going to be fun... it wasn’t. If it didn’t traumatize others, that’s great! Consider it a near miss, because it’s not unreasonable for someone to feel…

The name [Swift], as I’m sure you [Jonathan Swift] must know, is closely associated with our client. 

All fair points. I thought I should self identify, because I interpreted your comment as a straw man I’ve seen used primarily for the benefit of white men, like myself. But your comment was short and posed a question. So all I did was, to your point, anxiously virtue signal and prove the point that I don’t have…

White dude to troll: We don’t have that much to worry about. Assume someone tries to “smear” us or “ruin our life” in a civil lawsuit. Even if we actually did something, we can still be on the Supreme Court! And it takes at least 10 accusations (sometimes more, if you’re on TV!) to have any meaningful impact on our…

Yeah, working in mental health, the hardest people to work with were those who...