Nah.  Pretty fine with my gender and sexuality.  Not happy with how my gender has behaved for like 20K years.  We can do better.  As to photographed dude, ugly sweater and the rise of the modern beard is the worst thing men have done since the leisure suit.

Side note from the (worthy, great) discussion below:  I am a cis het dude, but I swear I’d divorce the photographed man the second I was married to him if I was thrust into a marriage with him.  Red flags all over.

I have tried doing different chores and she mostly gets annoyed. She wants me to do exactly what she wants me to do, and nothing more. We did see a counselor to get us to this point, which made my wife very happy. I have several points of concern (including this control issue) and my wife is uninterested in further…

With eyes on her hands!

One of the most satisfying moments in my marriage recently was when she unambiguously admitted her control issues. She specifically admitted she has a very hard time delegating things due to trust issues that came from her childhood (aforementioned shitty dad). I asked if she wanted to work on that because I wanted a…

I agree with everything you say here. But for the cis straight men, we need to literally dismantle almost all of what we were taught about how to be husbands an dads.  I saw almost no good role models as a kid.  I live to not be like any dad I knew before.

As a straight cis man, I actually get this. A lot of the guys complaining here about a lack of emotional/physical/other availability need to accept a few things - 1. parenting with two working parents is really hard, especially when kids are young (I have no comprehension of what life is like when there’s a stay at…

You are right on.  I think a lot of it is the patriarchy (of course) but relatedly, a lot is that most men had godawful role models.  The average man of the past was even more garbage than these guys everyone is complaining about (rightfully) here.  We as a gender need to grow, but the first step is to acknowledge we…

That’s awful.  I hope you can have healthier, happier relationships going forward, if that’s what you want.  

Your point touches on something unexplored in the piece. There are some work dynamics that are in play that are non-gendered and some that are gendered. You happen to have a job that is just less demanding (congrats!). I had a super demanding job (Service industry) with some sexist undertones that rewarded the “extra…

I suspect it’s highly tied to our cultural expectation to reproduce.  I am guessing that wherever you are, that is more optional?

Wow. Good for you and that’s a hard place to be. Might I just invite you to consider that nothing is forever, even emotions? I don’t know your marriage or relationship, but I suspect you had a period of romantic engagement leading in. And I have seen those emotions wax and wane in people. And wax again. (As a hetero…

Wow.  You are noble.  I do not know if I would take that path.  What drives you?  Faith?

With no judgment or criticism, what motivated you to put up with it that long?

Agree and yet, (take this w a grain of salt, I’m an idiot male, but a feminist PoC, so maybe just 90% toxic?) two things:

Question: This post seems to have hit a nerve (in me, in many of you) but I sense it’s mainly for us benighted souls with children under 10. I wonder if things are just better/happier/finer with older kids? I wonder if there’s an “IT GETS BETTER” aspect that is worth a little conversation about? Because the people I…

You are not. The imbalance in childcare help is a massive problem and one we struggled to deal with. (I’m a male father of two married to a woman and we are both successful professionals.) In the early going, a lot of the Zoomschool insanity fell to her, but it was odd - the time burden was equal. I got the kids out…

I love Jezebel. I am a reader and a feminist. And I am a man, a married man with two kids. (I apologize.) I’ll start by admitting there is a lot of truth in this article and, I believe, Jezebel writes with typical, humorous hyperbole. And it’s funny, this piece. It’s also painful.

But here is a pretty crucial bit of…

How?  

Yes, and oddly, our weird obsession on height makes average height of 5'10 “short”.  At least so I’m told.  By 5'2 women who say they are not short...