Wow. She’s cool. To be honest I didn’t think there were any black stunt women really working actively in the business.

I have a dear friend who teaches there, and while I understand their reasons for taking the job (the pay was great and teaching jobs in my field are super, super scarce, and they offered a spousal hire), I really hate that they’re a part of that cesspool of retrograde ideas.

I’m a physician and my husband does the larger load of the child care due to my crazy hours. He does this happily and genuinely enjoys being the “main parent.”Yet every doctor, the school, and basically everyone else consistently tries to call me because I’m the mom. And is shocked when I ask them to call my husband.…

As RBG told her children’s teachers when they were small and she was getting every single call: This child has two parents. Call him.

I’d say my husband for his part thinks he is an equal partner but he does not see the mental load at all. He also would be fine with our kids never being in an extra curricular, never going to a playdate or having a friend outside of our walls, not having gifts for birthdays/holidays, and no parties for anything, and…

The Andrew piece, as described, appears especially virulent because - as you note - it helps a small subset of women who would prefer this “solve”, but hurts every other working woman. In an Andrews world, even the childless working woman, it would seem, would have her career trajectory stalled by the powers that be, “…

I don’t see how these shape the choices of single, working mothers, other than a minor reference in Miller’s piece. What I do know is that I was the breadwinner in my marriage AND I took care of all the home and child needs, exclusively. Though he made much less, we needed his income (or I thought I did - turns out I…

I knew the principal had to be African American. The language of the dress code is redolent of “respectability” shaming. 

I said upthread that my son went to school last week with no insulin. His blood sugar was through the roof when the nurse called me. I was at cardiac rehab. If they’d made me go home and change out of my workout clothes before they let me take him to the ER I would have caused the biggest scene.

I read a news item recently about a woman being called to her son’s school because he had broken his arm. When she arrived, she wasn’t allowed in until she took off her satin bonnet.

I’m just going to leave this here. Setting ones hair is not new. White people just got better tools, and POC don’t always use high heat (speaking in generalities here) so you’ll see rollers. My sister is a night nurse. She will set her hair during the day on her day off and wrap it, much like these ladies in the…

As an educator, I feel like there could be right way to do.... (reads article).... nope, that was the wrong way to do this.

Exactly. It’s extremely fucking classist. Some parents might not give a shit but imagine being one that can’t afford business casual or whatever the fuck else the school tries to enforce. Parents have enough to worry about when it comes to their kids being bullied and ostracised and judged superficially without being…

For real. At least the kids go every day, school basically is their job, and preparing to go is part of their everyday rituals. Adults have to drop their everyday lives when the school calls. They’re going to come as they are, not as some pointy-headed administrator who has never spared a single thought for people…

I have rolled in to the office while wearing my pjs with a coat over them to drop off forgotten items or sign in a kiddo who just missed the bell more times than I can count. Showing up is showing up, we can’t all be ready and having our best day every time an emergency arises. 

Unless it’s for safety - dress codes are restrictions of personal freedom and shouldn’t be allowed IMO. “Approriate” dress is dictated by rich, conservative people and it needs to stop. Beyond racism, they’re also classist. 

It should maybe be like church: encourage people to dress well out of respect, but accept everyone as they are and be glad they’re there. I agree with the principal that parents are a child’s first teacher, but damned if you shouldn’t be thrilled they are present and participating, no matter the circumstances of their…

This is an accurate description of what a UTI feels like.

I kept regaling him with long, agonised accounts of my toilet breaks, in the hope of making it, in some way, our UTI. He had to catch a flight at one point and I realised that if the plane went down, one of the last things I would have said to him was ‘Honestly, it’s like pissing a live porcupine’.

Also, while you are waiting for whatever your doc prescribes, use AZO as IMMEDIATE symptom relief. I know the pain is horrendous but take 2 AZOs with a TON of water and by 15 min, the pain should subside.