Swap out a couple titles here and there and this exact same post could be written about Beyonce, but I digress.

Something I read once that stuck with me as true : shared values are more important than shared interests. My husband and I want the same things out of life in the big picture. We have those giant sprawling conversations where you solve all the worlds problems. That’s way more important than the fact that he loves…

Totally agree with this. I think we’ve married the same man. He has the same worldview as me (the look-at-eachother-at-a-party-with-raised-eyebrows-and-know-we’re-thinking-the-same-thing, thing), and we have the same living preferences - like being super frugal and liking cats. He’s extremely attractive to me and he’s…

Panem et circenses

Wait, they answered the phone as “bathroom mirror”? They are now referring to themselves as this incident?

I wish i could know what Bruce has been going through but i can’t. As a cishet straight male, i had the benefit of having my body gender and the gender of my mind/heart/soul match up. No amount of empathy can make you feel what that is like. I couldn’t imagine what i must be like to go through life knowing that you…

This is the first time I have acknowledged, outside of my own head, that I have been the victim of acquaintance rape:

My girlfriend was raped by her father as a child. When she went to her mother for help, her mother called her a whore that deserved it and beat her mercilessly. She was 9. The next five years of her life until she finally ran away consisted of a steady pattern of getting raped by dad and beaten by mom for being raped…

Strangely, for non-consensual sex, the word "rape" still works. I guarantee you that the friend who sexually assaulted me did, in fact sexually assault me, even if I did not act in the way you would expect me to after.

or not. because rape is rape regardless of the relationship between the victim and the aggressor before or after the assault.

This IS exactly why people don't report, and it's also why consent education is crucial — for *women,* as well as for men. When women are raped, they too often internalize the dominant script — it must have been an accident, a mistake, a miscommunication, probably their fault at least as much as his, etc etc — and…

This is exactly why I didn't report. I had sex with my rapist on a few occasions after he raped me because I thought I was claiming some control and maybe the rape would fade away behind these other encounters. Friends begged me to report but I knew I'd be dead in the water.

To me, all of that behavior, though not incompatible with rape, is compatible with a person who is emotionally invested and is trying to regain the attention of another who is not really interested in a relationship.

I think I understand why Sulkowicz wrote what she wrote to him, but I truly don't understand what she thinks the university or anyone else is supposed to do about it. The only two people who know what happened are her and the guy, but if she has no evidence, whether physical or circumstantial, there's not a whole hell…

I think too many people assume that, for anyone who experiences acquaintance rape, that experience will act like a switch on their feelings, and, BOOM, you'll clearly feel like that person is an asshole. That probably happens in some cases. But when it is someone to whom you are close, whom you trust, with whom…

Even if all these women were somehow "mistaken," you would hope that Columbia would think that this guy is, at the minimum, a shitty individual who has questionable behavior around women, and maybe isn't somebody they want on their campus.

this is all very serious but can we just glory in that girl's brilliant updogging of this idiot

If three different women accuse a man of rape, shouldn't the "where-there's-smoke,-there's-fire" alarm bell go off?

Dear Josie: You are my hero.

I love how people automatically question every rape accuser but the word of the rapist is somehow taken as fact? It just baffles me. He said he didn't do it! All of these people who claim they were raped by this person must be lying!