I agree.  I definitely seem not to have had the experiences others have.

I must just not be around the right(?) kids!  I really haven’t, but clearly lots of others have, so nevermind!

Yeah, I think in that case it’s clearly a lack of socialization, if not more intrinsic issues with the kid.  Pretty sad, really.  

Man, they really are.  I’ve been dismissing left and right.

Oh, it’s your WIFE’S opinion that’s bad? That changes everything!

Yeah, I didn’t think about little babies, who root on everything, but older kids...

Okay, little babies don’t discriminate, but I haven’t seen an older kid do it.

Then their boss should do it, not their subordinates.

This is disgusting, I’m so sorry.

“[T]here is nothing like the bonding between nursing mother and child”

I have never run into a breastfeeding child who tried to access my tits.  I’ve never even heard anyone else say this happens.  Not that I’m doubting you, but it is probably pretty rare.

The idea of being “too much of a mom” is really interesting to me. I think it shows itself in so many ways, the judgment against extended breastfeeding, the judgment against homeschooling, the idea that being wrapped up in your child makes you some sort of weirdo. It’s the other end of the coin from the judgment…

I’m not at my office today but apparently they’re having a lunch and I have a feeling that the bosses are kind of mortified by the whole thing.  I sure am.

I’m not talking about the TV show. I’m talking about the concept of a revenge body.

Your counterpoint is... that it makes you feel good for a moment, even though it’s not healthy or reasonable and there’s no real point to the whole thing?

Even that can border on inappropriate, I think, but yeah, there are plenty of ways to be like “Thanks for not being a dick to me” other than a stupid “holiday.”

I hate this idea so fucking much.  I don’t think it’s ever appropriate for a boss to expect a gift from a subordinate.  It feels like feudalism.

No problem. I think that writing people off as stupid when they are merely ignorant is dangerous in a lot of ways. When we write people off as stupid, we give up on educating them.

All that is true, but that doesn’t mean she’s stupid.  I feel like calling her stupid for this is not helpful or accurate and is unnecessarily rude.  Wrong, yes, misguided, yes, but not stupid.

I’m so sorry that happened to you, and this is part of what bothers me about the revenge body idea. Being valued more because you are in better shape is not something that makes anyone actually happy.