I’ve been ghosted by a BFF turned girlfriend turned BFF turned...ex? I guess? It’s unbelievably hurtful. I didn’t even know if she was alive for almost 2 years until a few weeks ago when she liked a mutual friend’s Facebook post. Not knowing what the fuck happened still drives me crazy sometimes, and she’s never not a…

I got ghosted by a girl last year with zero warning or preamble, after months of passionate correspondence. It totally fucked me up for MONTHS. Then she comes back out of the blue, we set up a meeting, I spend a weekend with her, and she ghosts me again.

And the waiting, the “surely he’s not just vanishing, he’ll reply at some point” etc. That’s sadistic. Even the coldest “it’s over” is less cruel.

Oh my God I haaaaate the “I’ll just make you break up with me” passive-aggressive bullshit.

That is a really good point, he is TOTALLY the type not to hear “it’s over.” Or anything that doesn’t please him.

Yes. I was in a relationship that was abusive. On the advice of my therapist, I ghosted. I’d already told her that she was being abusive, but she wouldn’t stop, so I disappeared.

I dunno, man, even if you’ve only dated a few times, you are an adult, it doesn’t take a lot to tell the other person “I’m just not feeling it”.

It is not always inexcusable. People who have the ability to leave an abusive relationship this way SHOULD do so. Confronting an abuser is dangerous and breaking it off is one of the most dangerous times for a person. So while it’s not ideal in most cases, it is not inexcusable in all of them either.

After a fight I had with someone I thought the world of, he’s basically started ghosting me. Now I fully admit that the fight was my fault, but I’ve had time to think and I’ve tried oh so very hard to let him know I’m sorry, but thus far in return, I get nothing but dead air. It’s fucking horrid.

And I never asked you to get into a situation like that. There are common sense caveats as to why you would ghost rather than officially break up. But I also don’t believe the OP is dealing with abusive lovers daily, they actually said so in a followup post. But please, continue to twist my words!

I would feel the same way I do whether it was Charlize Theron or any other woman, famous or not famous. Sean Penn is a known abuser. He is a violent, misogynistic asshole. I do not want to see any woman victimized by him. In her case, I was rooting especially hard against them being together, considering her family…

That’s a bit different, I thought you meant ghosted the way the article did, with someone you’re actually with. If blocking or not responding to people who basically harass you for sex after you’ve said no is ghosting, we might be using the word a bit loosely. But being hurt when it does happen to you with someone you…

Daaaaamn. She is reportedly close with her mom who could not have been a fan of Penn. I wonder if her mom had a word with her and set her straight.

That’s pretty mean. Hopefully your inability to communicate when you’re not interested doesn’t come back around on you, because I wouldn’t wish being ghosted on very many people. It fucking sucks.

Penn has a history of abusing women and Charlize Theron grew up in an abusive home. She saw her mom kill her dad in self-defense. I have to think on some level she was doing that thing that a lot of trauma survivors (including myself) do where we subconsciously choose partners that will allow us to relive the trauma…

Me too. And luckily Charlize realized (armchair psychic here) “I am Charlize motherfucking Theron and my mother put her life on the line to put down my dirtbag abusive father I can’t kill him due to mutual fame let’s just do this.”

I still can’t get over the fact that boys and young men wear shorts and black socks, sometimes with sandals. We are raising an entire generation to look like retired German civil servants hanging out on the Costa Brava.

He’s wearing his jeans like an old man: pulled upt to his chin.

He’s kind of got the awkwardness of a 14 year old...combined with the fashion sense of my father-in-law.

Charlize dropped Penn by activating Ghost Protocol