Day one for me, and this is great advice. “Take the action first, deal with the feelings. Eventually the feelings change around taking the action and it’s no longer a big deal. Then I take an even newer action and deal with those new feelings. And so on.”

Exactly. And you know.....I’d not thought of resentments, but man do I have some towards my sister. That said, she’s still the vile P.O.S that treats our Mom like dirt so it will be hard to let go of that anger. I may have to try to find a way, though. Thank you! And congrats!

That’s inspiring. I wish I could take time off from things to just focus on this and sort of baby myself as I wean off the booze but I’m in the middle of a damn crisis with the business I own so I’m going to have to be present to deal with that and fix it (quickly, hopefully). Sort of screwed myself into a corner…

I’ve tried AA in the past, did a few meetings. I was miserable and self-conscious and have horrid social anxiety (made so very much worse by booze, which is crazy). I do better online. Hoping after I dry out a bit that will change though.

Impressive and congrats! If I can find my energy and passion for my work again, that could help me tremendously (and may help salvage my business). Meanwhile I think I’m going to do what I’ve done on the few nights a week that I was “good” by not drinking, which is going to bed at 7 PM with a scifi book and some…

Thank you. It is a shit place to be, and get out of, and keep going back to. It killed my Dad, literally (pancreatic cancer). You’d think I’d know better, but I keep making excuses for myself as long as I’m “healthy”. Which is ridiculous. I’m far from healthy. But as far as I know, I can get better. At least I hope I…

Thank you for your lovely words (and congrats to you!!).

Exactly. I love Idris, I’m good with this....but Eddie DID refer to Roland as “long tall and ugly” fairly often, and there’s no ugly going on here. Tall, yes. Long, I’d be happy to check that out.

Right? How hard would it be to make them road dusty?

Thanks. I hope I can. Far and away not the first time I’ve tried, but I’ve got to do it. I have to make it stick.

Thanks. My issue is that I drink at home, so will have to adjust my routine to avoid that craving in the evening. I’ve used it to escape stress and to get myself to stop “thinking” after working all day between my shop and online biz. Now it works too well!

Thanks. Back atcha. You made me cry a little.

I’m sitting here hungover, and this popped up in my FB feed. I’m looking at having to close my business that I’ve had for nearly 10 years and while I’ve blamed everyone else possible for why I have screwed it up, it’s me. And beer. And I know it. I too have left myself “drunk me” messages to “sober me” (in my notes on…

Someone’s taking something too literally....and it isn’t the author of this article.

Absolutely spectacular!! Gave me chills. I grew up in a small town in northern Iowa, and when I was 7 years old a tornado (actually, 2) took out large sections of our town. I was in the tub and my Mom came in, swooped me into a robe and hauled me and my sister down to the basement where we sat and said the Hail Mary…

Happily I haven’t run into people like that in my social media world, but I can speak to the maternal (parental, really) instinct to stay calm in crisis to protect a small child. I fell on some stairs and literally snapped my tibia/fibula in half and sat holding my leg up as the lower part dangled by skin and muscle…

Fair enough, but the people who want to address those things are dismissed as socialist/libtard/commies while the people who live in that poverty and feel disenfranchised vote for people who will do nothing to help them at all.

I’m coming in late here and may not get a response, but in my experience those who support Trump are not people interested in finding common ground with anyone who doesn’t agree with them. My Uncle, if one bothers to engage in conversation with him on FB when he posts some Trump drivel that is blatantly inaccurate or…

Oh bugger off. He lived in NYC and shot fashion there, the stuff he liked. He didn’t have to like everything ever anywhere on the planet, nor shoot all of everything everywhere. It was not his job to make every human in NY feel pretty, nor every human on the planet to feel pretty. Sometimes (I know, it’s shocking)…

Ugh, he’s so wrong. And so Eugene Tooms. Always.