Don’t you have a tinfoil hat meeting to go to somewhere?

Or, you can just be grownups and talk it out...

I agree, I also feel like its a little hard to enforce because so many things can happen after a baby is born that it is hard to hold those agreements later. 

I did not know enough about what I was getting into before my first child to have been able to write a serious “baby prenup”. We had to make these kinds of negotiations on-the-fly after she was born. Sometimes our workload isn’t equal in the short term, but in the long term it balances out more or less because we’ve…

The Venn Diagram of what I expected during the first year vs what actually happened the first year have less than 1% overlap.

The average American woman has NO leave. 33% take no time off and another 16% take less than a month. So about 50% of new moms in America.

Meh to this. I enjoy my wife and kids company. I have 4 kids and we’ve flown when they were toddlers all the way up until teenage and beyond years. Part of the vacation experience is spending time with them, talking to them and god forbid something bad happen (even rough air) being beside them to comfort them.

But if…

I shouldn’t have to say this, but the leading edge of millennials are nearly 40. If you still have broken hand-me-downs and Ikea populating your apartment at 38... that is unfortunate.

It seems to me that if you only use “I wonder” when you disapprove of what your kid is saying, they’ll figure out it means that. So for this to work, you have to make an effort to “wonder” with your kids about all kinds of things where you really are open to them answering in a variety of ways.

This seems to be mistitled. A better description would be “how to teach kids to think how you’d like.”

“How” and “What do/what would” questions are great ways to help anyone think a little more deeply. “Why” questions can be overwhelming or lead to blame, and “what is” questions can be answered too quickly to trigger much thought.

That’s how I’ve always done it with my kids, too. And I’m rarely rigid with the countdown, so sometimes 5 minutes is actually 10. If they’re being assholes, maybe it’s 2.

Except my kids are too smart. “Five more times on the slide, huh old man? You can shove it up your ass because I’m not gonna slide anymore. Now we never have to leave.”

Since before having kids, I’ve wondered about whether surrogacy is inherently exploitative or if there can be a surrogacy that is fair to the surrogate, the child, and the parents. (Some of the readings in law school addressed surrogacy contracts, and there are so many areas of law that overlap there: family law,…

You don’t have to abolish the traditional family in order to make non-traditional or chosen families acceptable.

It doesn’t appear you read nerdybirdy’s entire post.

I don’t understand why William’s comment is a thing. My mom’s gay and I have a lot of friends that are gay and they all navigate life just fine, but I’d still worry about how my child would be treated if they came out as gay. Support them a million percent, but it’s my DUTY to worry about them. Knowing they’re…

Agreed. The pressure would absolutely come from outside the monarchy. For one thing, a lot of people who are interested in the monarchy are also deeply conservative. It’s hard enough when royals are straight, and it’s fairly obvious that public scrutiny made William and Harry miserable growing up. Paparazzi basically…

I’m not sure I get the snark over William’s comments (beyond the legitimate discussion about the word “decision”). He acknowledged that the issues would be the result of society’s failures and that’s something we all need to work to change. Given the scrutiny Meghan has faced, undoubtedly in large part because she is…

They don’t. They think “He’s having to push back against all these savages, that’s why he looks unhinged! I look like that all the time, especially when my wife makes me beat her.”.