So sorry, saw this a few days ago and then the holidays happened. I like Carolyn Hax (but there is a pay wall on WaPo so I only can get so many), AmyDickinson.com, a couple on this page creators.com/advice.html, etiquette.com, doctornerdlove.com, dearwendy.com (these tend to be the most ridiculous and salacious). I…

Um, I’m not a lady, I’m a person who believes that mutual respect is the cornerstone of any good relationship.

Nooooooooooooo!!! Advice columns are my Saturday morning coffee jam! I’d have to read enlightening, important stuff if people started communicating properly with each other.

Oh I could have guessed he was a douche *without* that conversation. All that honest conversation did was give him ammunition to use against me when we broke up.

Maybe by being honest you found out that guy is a douche who doesn't respect your feelings and is not for you. That is a good thing.

I tried that once. “Hey it really hurts that you randomly mention how amazing/sexy/thoughtful/intelligent/perfect your ex-girlfriend was.” “Well, you need to stop being so insecure. I can’t help that my ex was perfect and that we had a mature enough breakup that I don’t hate her! You’re being really selfish, trying to…

10/10 would read

Well, it seems like the guy in the article had already discussed it with her, found out that she ‘puts up with it’ and decided that it was an ok thing to do even though she made her displeasure clear. That’s disrespectful and, personally, I don’t want to be in a relationship with someone who so obviously disrespects…

Lol, imagining the Octopit Relationship Advice Column, where every answer to every letter would be this comment copy/pasted.

For real, how hard is it to put your caveman instincts in the backseat? If I’m out with a friend, my fiance, an employer, whatever... The hottest fucking guy could walk through the door, I wouldn’t notice him. Because I am busy with people who are 100 times more interesting than a random hot guy (but dude could u pls…

I put ‘puts up with it’ in quotes because it really means “She doesn’t like it but doesn’t want to get in a screaming match about it so she doesn’t confront him about it.” That’s not a thing you want to be happening in a relationship.

Ha ha ha stating at my ass IS NOT ADMIRING me in any way. It is harassing me.

Alternatively: If he’s continually doing something that he knows you don’t like and doesn’t really seem to care that you don’t like it, then you should probably dump him because that will carry through to the rest of your relationship. It denotes a lack of respect and a relationship doesn’t function well when one…

No, staring at other women when you know your girlfriend ‘puts up with it’ makes you an asshole. And, generally, leering at any women in public does indeed make you an asshole.

Yeah, my man too. I’m always asking him, “what about that girl?” etc and he hasn’t noticed her. It’s always surprising to see who he finds attractive. He’s got such a range, and it’s really hot b/c usually he is attracted to the sort of women that I think look super cool . Or else maybe he’s intentionally selecting…

I’m genuinely surprised about the amount of times I bring up a pretty lady and it turns out my boyfriend is eyeing pizza/dogs/games etc

It’s Elizabeth Banks in Magic Mike XXL; she’s playing the MC at a male stripper convention or something. It’s not really supposed to be a tasteful outfit.

I’m pretty sure I check out men and women a lot more than my partner. There have been at least two occasions when I said something about women in the park (not snarky, like “I love her outfit” or “I wonder if I could pull off that look”) and he’s not noticed her at all because he was looking at a dog. I just like…

I'm not playing the race card, I'm playing the rice card

How dare you imply that Jeremy Renner would ever move to Phoenix.