And of course I skipped all the stuff from when they were babies (diapers, barfing, potty training, touring preschools, scrubbing high chairs, learning food allergy exposure schedules...)

What gets me is men who tell stories about how much housework and child-raising work they do, expecting praise, and then when you talk to the wife it becomes clear that the man does a bare minimum but makes it sound like he’s Super Dad.

I think AOC has more appeal in red states than people give her credit for. Things are changing. If Beto almost won Texas, why couldn’t an AOC type progressive win a House seat in deep east Kentucky? The idea that AOC wouldn’t appeal to rural Appalachians is just centrist spin.

I suggest you dismiss the troll GenS before somebody without impulse control replies to him, thus taking him out of the grays!

I realize that scheduling appointments for some couples counseling would be one more thing on your list, but like....you should. Because this sounds like some serious resentment on your part and some serious immaturity/lack of self-awareness on his part, and it’s not going to get better without a big change.

I work a job with considerably more responsibility than my husband, and my job requires more overtime.

I’m just curious, after reading all that, if you’re getting a divorce or not? Because you sound pretty miserable. No trolling.

Fuck that's like basically all adult things. What DOES he do? 

The emotional labor (and actual labor) is so real.

This is one of the reasons why I am divorced. I had all of this on top of a small business and I couldn’t “manage/train”* a husband. If I was going to do it all, then why are you here. I just couldn’t and I was becoming bitter and mean.

Holy fucking shit THIS is what is impossible to explain to partners. All of this. We don’t even have kids yet, and there is still a list of things like this. My partner doesn’t like to “feel stupid” so if there’s something he doesn’t know how to do, he kind of like...gets insecure and doesn’t do it...so I do. I love…

This reminds me of my partner and how he used to say he’s the one who “works.” It excuses all manner of laziness in the home. Housework and child-rearing is work. Unpaid, unappreciated work.

#divorce2019

Bitch. You are a glorious woman. Ya whole damn family is lucky. I see you. I applaud you. I am you. 

You made me cry. Only because it hit home. 

That is probably one of the most comprehensive lists of household chores and child rearing tasks I have ever read. Have you ever shared this list with your partner? Not giving advice, I’m just curious how he reacted. I'm guessing defensively.

You are a super hero.

“I didn’t have much experience of how to organize domesticity.”

As long as you can keep their hair clean and relatively untangled I think you’re fine! Nothing wrong with a simple ponytail. :)

As a Dad, this really bothers me on a visceral level. Who WOULDN’T want to spend time with your kid?!? He’s YOUR KID. This will definitely impact them since “Dad doesn’t seem to care” which in turn will influence their parenting style which perpetuates this indifference.