I don’t know WHAT it is about it but I HATE that skin-toned net on dresses. I’d rather it be see-through white or black or whatever, but the SKIN TONE just reminds me of robbers with pantyhose on their faces or a Princess Jasmine costume from 1993.

Agreed on nearly every point. Except one.

Yeah, this is a hill I’ll die on each and every time, though Jezebel readers tend to snark hard on bad grammar and punctuation: looking down on someone for poor written or verbal communication is classist and ableist and unkind. Good communication skills are not a solid indicator of intelligence or worth. Come at me,…

This stunned me. I have worked in literacy programs with kind, wonderful, strong (and very shamed) adults. They simply have a hard time reading (for myriad reasons), and some of the compensations they have developed are beyond genius.

Right? I felt for this girl and thought when Jane said here’s the follow up it would make me feel even more for her.

For someone who says she loves cats, she sounds like a seriously shitty cat owner! Anyone who lets a sick cat shit all over the basement instead of seeking medical care is an awful person who should not own cats. The new cats deserve a home with a family that will take care of them. DON’T GET ANY MORE CATS, LADY!

please run this column from now on

I can’t believe Jane’s rude, snarky response to the 2nd person. “You are a child”? Like, what the fuck even? I’m 35 and sometimes I write quick emails with typos, because who the fuck cares? That doesn’t mean I’m a child. Why is Jane still writing an advice column for Jezebel?

Hypothetical:

The typo thing=children is unkind. You should not marry this man not because you may be young, based on your typos. You should not marry this man because after hooking up on-again, off-again, fooling around, whatever it was for three years, he can’t know after three months of monogamy if he’ll be satisfied and…

“I believe you are a child. / right now you need to be (...) nutting all over the place.” 

No, I’m pretty sure the other poster was talking about “poof” but they said it rhymes with “tooth,” so I was just being obnoxious. :)

...p....pooth....

See, I want to agree with that but, I know that’s not how it works.

So...black people should censor themselves in creating an artwork so white people don’t have to censor themselves while they sing along. Got it.

Words mean things. She is calling someone a nigga in the song. By you singing it, you are doing the same.

Nope - Black people using the n-word is fine and non-Black people using it isn’t, end of story and clearly true by any moral, ethical, or historically informed standard. ‘TOP TEN’ song lyrics aren’t a magic excuse, and the thousands of white people that manage to sing lyrics to great songs while skipping the one word…

Oh please. Every community does this. Yet you have a problem with some black people sticking up for ourselves? You are very consistent.

Strong disagree. I believe Ta-Nehisi Coates pointed this out recently. It is really really easy to not sing along to that word. Like super easy. While black people have to constantly police what they say at the risk of being seen as angry or hostile or whatever.

And just look at the white and otherwise non-Black people telling us how we should feel, and how intentions matter, and how if they can’t say it, nobody should say it. Look at ‘em all. Literally: