As the mother to a gay son, that makes me absolutely sick. Parents are supposed to be a soft place to land, your biggest champion and the people who love you the most. My son’s sexuality is no more a “sickness” than my own. I fucking love having the son that I do and so does his father, my husband. My only hope is…

I believe you misunderstand the point of these “thinkpieces” as you call them, and I struggle with whether that misunderstanding is intentional.

I just don’t see anything to back up that assertion except anecdotes.

There does need to be a broader understanding of trauma and its effects on people because the majority of my clients have experienced extreme trauma in their lives, which often explains their actions. Your example of Battered Woman Syndrome is a perfect example of that because it can and should be a defense (if it…

“These aren’t uncommon reactions for people who have suffered violence at the hands of sexual or romantic partners (and attacking a sexual assault victim’s credibility is a defense tactic as common as it is ugly).”

You'll be a better parent (and more effective) when you decide to never put your hands on your child in anger again.

The thing that really crushes me is, YES, white people can do better. I'm feeling generous so I will give suggestions: Be open-minded and support stories that have diverse voices (and if the immediate reaction is "oh I just only like shows/movies/music that happen to only have white people in them EXAMINE THE HELL OUT…

Again, it's not about white people's intentions. Think of it this way; if you were trying to explain misogyny to a man and he kept interrupting you to explain how nonsexist he was, saying #notallmenz. That's what "good white people" do to black people. That's what you did in reaction to this excellent and extremely…