I know I can’t be the only one that hates gender reveal parties. Please explain why are they necessary.

Yu’d be surprised a the number of dudes who won’t take direction.

Huh, your biggest issue is that you don’t get anything out of it personally. Do you like getting blow jobs? Do you think when you get sucked off that every woman doing it get’s something out of it “personally” or she should be like a porn star and act like she’s just wild about it? Do you communicate with your…

I’m with your boyfriend.

pretty sure a lot of girls feel the same way over blow jobs.

Well, that makes sense too. Ideally you have a partner who is passionate about making you feel good, not just going through the motions.

Also, can I please be un-grayed here? I’ve been commenting civilly for years (before kinja even, albeit under a different handle) and am cleared on nearly all the other blogs here that I comment on even semi-regularly (although I’ve nearly dropped Kotaku because I just don’t have as much time for gaming these days).

Genuine question about this advice on bad sex: how can you just “stop having bad sex” when you don’t always know beforehand what the sex will be like?

I am so sad that I had to be 32 before I realized that faking orgasms had literally ensured I had bad-to-boring sex with genuinely nice men.

Counterpoint: Don’t fuck someone like that.

Fuck anyone who won’t go down on their partner but expects their partner to go down on them.

It is not socially unacceptable, politically incorrect, or off-topic to offer context for the perspective I offered, considering the context of the original statement. A woman or transsexual responding to the same video might have an entirely different point of view, and it would not offend me if they also provided…

The imagery is completely centered around male sexuality, which bores the fuck out of me. It’s the same as porn for me, I see nothing in it that caters to women’s sensuality or pleasure, so why would I be entertained or aroused by it?

Dude, unclench. Nowhere did I put a moral spin on it, but if that’s how you want to read it... How do you feel about Aunt Lydia?

I think this kind of performative hyper sexuality is tiring and personally I lose all interest in sex when confronted with it. Are other people turned on by this?

That journalist sure doesn’t have journalistic instincts to not follow up her self-serving answer with this interesting fact.

Let’s just give her the benefit of the doubt for a moment and look at what she did under that assumption.

She didn’t say he sexually harassed her.

Would I work with Woody again? I had a very productive time working with Woody, and he has written some of the most extraordinary roles for women. But at the time I worked with him I knew absolutely nothing about what was going on, and it came out subsequently.

So Cate Blanchett doesn’t want to talk to a reporter about the specifics of her abuse, fair enough, but she expects another person to go to court and be ruthlessly cross examined for days. Okay.