It’s time for men to have a conversation about how they need to stop making their sexual partners uncomfortable by treating them as disposable bodies, busting degrading porn moves with no prior discussion of mutual pleasure, and treating “slow down/stop” cues as speed bumps en route to ejaculation rather than valuable…

yep. and plenty male friends of mine get that. i don’t know why people are continuing to invalidate her experience with these permutations on “it wasn’t that bad”

yeah that’s nice and all that it’s “a turn on for some men” but i sure as hell think it’s tacky and gross and porny and fuuu ALWAYS ASK BEFORE INCLUDING SOMEONE IN YOUR FETISH. fuckin no.

that’s what i’m wondering about you. NEXT TIME makes it crystal clear. stop making excuses.

NOTICED THIS

he didn’t just not leap into Mexico and Africa, he never leaped into the southern hemisphere at all...WHAT DOES IT MEAN??

annoying? you think she was just annoyed??

no, it doesn’t! do you know what does? saying “let’s have sex!” you know what doesn’t? saying “next time” when someone initiates it. period, end of story.

well look here, we have a would-be rapist.

it would be good for you to remember that coercion doesn’t need to include threats or violence as well. see example #2 here. https://sapac.umich.edu/article/205

technically he’s wrong. coercion does not have to involve violence or threats. https://definitions.uslegal.com/c/coercion/

...ok? Which means what exactly? it’s still a consent violation and garbage behavior.

Oh we’ve been talking about it plenty. Clearly you don’t hang with the right kind of people (who dig on weird creepy stuff).

NOW Vice reports?? We’ve been talking about this/reading about it here since last summer!

yeah, there’s the neckline/cleavage (which is really pushed up) and then the dress tuns into a hipless column below that. She lools very top heavy/apple’d

acrually yeah, it can be criminal in some situations.

honey, a) the definition of pushing and of pushing someone away includes more than just the physical act of pushing someone. her behaviors were clearly pushing him away in that situation.

What that author is saying is what an enormous number of women have come out and said post-aziz article: this type of behavior is common/pervasive and it sucks. so yeah, you should fucking care what women have to say about it.

<3 i just...the account is 99.5% of my experience with cishet men, and some lesbians. it's so awful yet pervasive and considered "the norm" that it makes me ill. this is why i don't date men anymore. I'm not entirely unattracted to them, but I'm completely over that jabby and fumbling and pushy and transactional shit.

lolno. HE should have not been right back at the same shit after she pushed him off THE FIRST TIME. thefuck. THIS IS GARBAGE BEHAVIOR.