you really should take the time to read the whole thing before making conclusions.

statistics don’t just come from police reports. Many people are ok to disclose their history anonymously. I mean, how do you think we have data on what goes unreported?

ugh this crap...sadly this attitude seems to be way too common. Body-shaming is bad except when I do it! it’s always ok to do to fat and ugly people. Andif you’re attractive and you get harassed, you’re a slut and you asked for it. oh yeah, and body positivity, but only when i’m thin or attractive or have lost weight.

it’s probably illegal, too. Our noise ordinance prohibits loud noise like that before 8am.

I think what matters most is how SHE feels about it and what HER perception of it is. It is perfectly fine to leave the door open for people to accept something bad happened, but no one should ever catastrophize anyone else’s experience or define it for them. Ever. And this article kinda does that and it makes me mad.

The term comes from a the play Gas Light, where the husband tries to get his wife (and others) to believe she is insane by changing things around and then telling her nothing has changed. Notably, the gas lights dimming, which her husband said she was imagining, but it was really happening. Gaslighting is NOT turning…

They didn’t “gaslight” her. gaslighting isn’t turning around blame. Gaslighting is hardcore manipulation designed to make people question reality by outright lying about things that were done or said.

Man...the comments to this thread sure have a lot to say about it, and yet from reading them it’s clear most of these folks didn’t bother to read the Teen Vogue article (linked) or watch the clip to learn more about it...

Here’s that cut they linked to in Teen Vogue

We all appreciate donations to PP, but please remember the dozens of independent care providers who *also* need out help. Many of these are the *only* clinics available for neaeby populations, and they ALSO need our financial support.

Don’t forget the Anglicans. EPISCOPAL CHURCH, YO. srsly folks. there’s a reason Robin Williams called it “Catholic Lite”

the alarm clock is the worst. Nickel plated brass for $500. it’s not even fucking silver anywhere. $475 charge because it says “tiffany & co”

Isn’t this what neurofeedbacktherapy does with qEEG brain mapping that actual humans interpret? and then therapy to teach regulation of brain waves? Maybe the right people aren’t making enough money off of it, so we figure out more expensive ways to do the same thing and lead people on about treatment hope. sigh.

Thank you for being so very well spoken on this. I appreciate everything you’re saying.

That’s what I’m saying.

I don’t like anything-anonymous programs, but it *does* work for some people, and it’s working for him. What he *can* do is find a professional to discuss the issue of coming clean to his wife. Ideally a family therapist, if he wants to save his marriage. And he can talk it over with his SA group as well.

I’m really…

uh, did you read the article? he DID get help, which is why he’s in SA. And for everyone else who can’t read, it seems the bulk of his addiction was porn & masturbation. FFS. Yes, it’s possible to cheat ONLY ONCE and still be a sex addict. sex addiction doesn’t always mean *with other people.*

oh god i’ve been feeling this for so long and you verbalized it so well. thank you.

GAHHH

it’s Ex-Ex-Ex-Tenta-shion