the only one exercising their ego is you. If you weren’t, you wouldn’t have to make shit up about what people said and strawman these arguments to death. Check yourself.
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Hey, if you want to talk about playing games, how about not strawmanning someone’s argument to make yourself the “victor” because it’s NOT ABOUT YOU? I mean no one’s making excuses, but you are making up shit no one said to make yourself look better. gross.
lol nothing has been taken out of context. You have, magically, changed the goalposts of your argument several times (her parents are abusers, no, her situation was abuse! no, hitting a child with a belt is abusive) and are still choosing to ignore the fact that ***telling someone what their experience is over…
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the person saying it’s ok to hit kids with a belt
How she feels is EXTREMELY RELEVANT. it’s HER EXPERIENCE, not YOURS, you egotistical selfish git.
oh no. i’m not confusing anything with anything else, other than you’re deliberately glossing over what’s being said because you’re desperately trying to be RIGHT, which isn’t about abuse or victims, it’s about YOU.
AGAIN, when it comes to victims of abuse, rape, sexual assault, etc., you NEVER tell them what their…
yup, this.
yes, you are. by trying to define her experience as what YOU want it to be, that also includes how one is supposed to FEEL about that kind of experience. Allies listen, they don’t fucking do this shit.
IT’S FUNNY HOW I’M TELLING YOU YOUR PROBLEM IS THAT YOU’RE REFUSING TO LET OTHERS TELL THEIR STORIES AND NOT LISTENING AND HERE YOU ARE, STILL NOT LISTENING.
the fuck?? IT’S HER STORY. You don’t get to determine what are “facts” and what are not. YOU WEREN’T THERE.
I’m not asking you to *stop caring*. I’m asking you to STOP NEGATING OTHERS’ EXPERIENCES because it’s WRONG. It can MAKE THINGS WORSE for survivors. there’s not an advocate/support group in existence who doesn’t understand this, so if you *actually* want to be an ally, KNOCK IT OFF.
That doesn’t include negating others’ experiences!! holy shit.
You are doing that in spades, right now, in this thread, by trying to tell nadaforgretchenweiners what her experience is INSTEAD OF LISTENING TO HER. Stop. Stop it. You CANNOT define others’ experiences, and telling them that it’s worse than what they say is VERY HARMFUL. Stop. Stop.
OH GOD THIS. Intent doesn’t mean shit. Whether they meant it to be or not, what they did was offensive, and they better as hell realize it.
actually, the grossest thing is when other people judge or try to define how others grieve a lost loved one.