I feel like maybe there’s a subset of people who just don’t get them? I’m in my mid 30s and I’ve never had one. But I couldn’t wear these any way since I’m one of those *gasp* big labia-ed folks. Or maybe it keeps the germs out. But I’m betting they deal with so much suffering for their routines. 

I guess, but the thick ones? 

I’ve heard her talk about doing her hair and she likes that feeling. She talked about using multiple hair ties. It’s her choice but oh is she ever going to regret it later. 

I saw a clip where she showed how she does her hair. ONE hair tie like that would kill me. But she uses two or three. Goodbye hair. 

Was it “Abraham Lincoln: vampire hunter”?

Oh I meant yup to the premise, but not the movie. It was only published in 2016. But I so tried to google a movie like that. 

Yup. There are some other fantastic elements but other than the train it’s more real things only slightly exaggerated to create a point. For example, in hisNorth Carolina any black person is executed on sight. It gave it almost a dystopian feel.

I’m almost through The Underground Railroad. It’s very unique and it took a bit before I could wrap my history student brain around the more fantastic elements, but I like how it used them. 

YES. A big part of healing was stopping myself from comparing lives and saying “if only”. I don’t regret my path because it changed me. If I’d never come home I wouldn’t have worked jobs that gave me other worldviews. I wouldn’t have met my husband or many other valued friends. You just have to let go. 

The weird thing is I am one of those. I miss getting excited about course offerings and new classes. But even that can’t save you if it’s not the right time.  

Yep. Mine was high anxiety with intrusive thought and as a result I shut down without a safety net or my usual coping. 

Honestly, no. And I think college is where many people figure that out in a good way. It’s the time where you can reinvent yourself. But for some like me, that just doesn’t go smoothly. 

Yup. Mine never would have agreed to a gap year. Or maybe they would have if I worked. There’s just so much pressure all around. Especially at my small school where they boasted 100% college attendance and super pressured the one girl who broke that in our year. 

And the worst part is that no one tells you it’s common. It doesn’t feel that way when you’re in it. And same to the rest, all the guys who skipped college for trades are doing great. 

True. But does she REALLY need one? 

Exactly 

I wish our culture didn’t shove every kid into college right away. I was an individual who wasn’t ready. Leaving for college came with very little knowledge of myself. I was that kid who was deeply imbedded in a toxic best friend relationship that weakened and I eventually broke off during this phase. I became…

Eh I’m okay with this one. What I can’t handle is the DH, DS, DD crowd. Especially when women give advice to each other and use terms like “baby dance” to refer to attempted procreation.

“Mama bear”

Yes. And it’s not like you can’t do the leaning forward and adjusting the boobs when you’ve put it on this way. Just after it’s clasped