I didn't want to say if first, but.....

I'm sure the Gay community will be thrilled to know they can choose to be straight

Unpopular opinion: I do think attraction is controllable BUT I think people who tend to be progressive and open minded are more likely to change or expand their sexual preferences compared to "old fashioned" minded people. For me, my taste in men has changed significantly from when I was a teenager until now.

I don't think that is a fair analogy. I can choose who I hire, I cannot choose who I find attractive.

I think a significant amount of black men have misogynistic views against black women and internalized the ideology that any woman who isn't black is better, but that's a whole different topic...

I hear where you're coming from, but someone's sexual preferences do not in and of themselves assume to judge a person's merits, their value in society, their right to civil rights and equal opportunity and fair judgement in the eyes of the law, they are a reflection of someone's fantasies. Someone's sexual…

You could make the same argument about sexual preference based on biological sex, but you don't see people arguing that.

There is so much wrong with this article, where do I begin? First, it assumes that white people who exclusively date other white people are unfairly denying Black and Asian people something important; as if the chance to have a white lover is prize that people of color are fighting for. Secondly, you're subjecting…

"(if you have 10 favorite books and they were all written by white men, we have a problem)"

(if you have 10 favorite books and they were all written by white men, we have a problem)

Are we really going with the word "racist" to describe dating preferences or attraction? Clearly in many cases these preferences are the result of historical and contemporary attitudes towards men and women of different races and ethnicities. That's an important discussion to have. But I'm so uncomfortable with the…

Okay, and I think it is still a fair question to ask.

Sorry but I don't think its racist to only date people of your race. I'm a black woman and I only date black men, does that make me racist. Or is it just racist if someone that is non black only want to date within their race.

Is having preferences in sexual attraction considered racist now?

I think you are going to date whom ever you're attracted to, what ever that happens to mean to you. I've dated men that aren't of my ethnic background, but I'm generally more attracted to those of a similar background to mine. Does that make me racist? I don't think so.

I've said this once and I'll say it again, and no one will listen but as the child of many generations of Vaccine Researchers, I can tell you the #1 group of people who don't vaccinate are people in Vaccine Research. I am not vaccinated nor any of my parent's co-worker's children. I've posted list and list of…

After work, my kid and everything else I just want to go home and watch Netflix. I like relationships but hate dating.

I am super awkward and shy and every time someone gives me a compliment, I actually kind of laugh at it because HAR HAR YEAH RIGHT. Also my last boyfriend suddenly became incredibly codependent, dishonest and cheaty (with dudes, which kind of adds another layer of dishonesty) and I am too fucking tired for all that…

I just don't have anything in particular going for me that would make me a guy's preference as opposed to his last resort or least bad option. And I have too much self respect to settle for being settled for.

I used to be anxious about my singlehood when I was in my late 20s. I spent many years with the wrong men. Now I'm 36 and don't really care, and have finally stopped looking.