Can you please change the title so something like queer or gay? The F word (even used by us in the community) is wrong and should be banned permanently.

True on the one hand; on the other, I don’t support any group stopping to the levels of their oppressors to “reclaim” or use their oppressors’ terms for them even in jest. I also don’t support oppressed groups using oppressive slurs for people in other groups, which gay men sure do seem to love doing to women.

I think you totally didn’t read my comments.

When masculinity manifests itself in unhealthy ways its considered toxic. There is no such thing as being “too masculine”.

Okay, but did Adam Rippon reclaim that word? Because that’s not what happened here.

I am proud of how Rippon called out Pence and that he’s an Olympian.

Frankly, I don’t think you get to reclaim the word to label others. I don’t care if you’re part of the in-group, you don’t get to label someone else a term that has been so deeply hurtful for so many. I have no idea how Rippon personally feels about it, but I don’t think anyone gets to assume he’s ok with it.

But they aren’t policing you. Most of them did not say that you cannot use that word. They just said (literally) “Am I wrong for feeling uncomfortable with the way you appropriated “faggot” as term of endearment.” They didn’t say “no, you can’t use that word like that!”

Tom Brady is a technically skilled quarterback, but he’s not fabulous.

I am a gay man. This word was viciously hurled at me every day of my young adulthood, as a way to discredit my humanity and put me in my place. To remind me, less I saw myself as a human being, that I was not welcome to the table. Believe it or not, that has an impact on a person. Not insignificant.

Well, I am gay and FUCK YOU for thinking you pull out your gay card and use it as an excuse for putting that word out there.

This is just my personal outlook, so please don’t take it as an attack. But the way I see it is, if there’s something about a community or culture that I don’t fully understand and can’t talk about without using potentially problematic terms, then maybe I just shouldn’t be talking about it.

One of the valuable things…

ur not wrong but if ur not gay i dont really care

I have a biracial child and I raised him not to refer to his friends as “his niggas.” This strikes me kind of the same way.

Am I wrong for feeling uncomfortable with the way you appropriated “faggot” as term of endearment.

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Wooooo, ty, ty, ty for a non school shooting, or other necessary to know about racism or this Country failing, but horrible shit article. <3 you Monique. I hope you had a fun Valentine’s.

Isn’t that how they make moonshine?

Which drive through do you think they’ll hit on the way to jail?

Now reports of a “Number of Fatalities”.