I’m done with you. Whatever insecurity you have that’s causing your transphobia (and yes, it is a you problem) that’s not my problem. You literally ignored my point about breast growth but you don’t seem that bright, so.

Um...no. Considering I have breasts, yes, I absolutely may someday know how that feels. I’m sorry you’re going through that, I really am. But what you just said is just blatantly incorrect.

You do realize that some women are born with an XY chromosome, right? And that some men are born with XX? Please educate yourself on biology before you start spouting your ignorant opinion, thanks.

I could be a real asshole here and try to invalidate your gender identity like you have to me but I won’t. I’m a better person than you. Have a nice day.

No one is saying that those things can’t define womanhood for you. What we are saying is that this person (and no one) can define womanhood for everyone else, especially when they dismiss anyone who hasn’t had their specific experiences. It's about not excluding people,

You have no idea what I would give up to be able to have been female since birth. No idea. I would give up any privilege you can name to be able to have experienced the correct childhood. And it is SO PAINFUL when people not only try to invalidate my experiences but rub in my face that I never had- and can never have-…

If they don’t define your womanhood, you are not in fact a woman.

“ There’s not a woman alive who hasn’t had to worry about menstruation, cervical cancer, breast cancer, etc. Just like there isn’t a man alive who hasn’t had to worry about prostate cancer, etc. “

If they don’t define your womanhood, you are not in fact a woman.

I am not dismissing it, I am saying I find it offensive. To me. As in, these experiences do not define my womanhood at all, and to suggest that it would for all other women is insulting. You don’t know my life, my gender experiences, and suggesting that because Caitlyn or I cannot relate to this or I am not a woman is…

We must be about the same age — I’m 36, and the punk/goth guys in high school would wear eyeliner and those long gauzy skirts and paint their nails. (I don’t remember black lipstick on guys, but that doesn’t mean it didn’t happen.) The ‘90s were kind of an amazing time for alternative gender expression. But yeah, I…

I had a slightly different experience with makeup and clothing than most trans people. I was in the goth scene and always had black nail polish on, and wore black lipstick so many times. Plus, back in the 90s guys wore skirts too. I got more than a few comments on my nails, but as a 90s ‘freak’ it didn’t matter to me.…

New definition of womanhood: going through a phase where you spend waaaaaay too much time on your eyeliner.

Y’know, that’s a good point and I hadn’t thought about it. As someone born in a female body, I can paint my nails or not paint my nails, or wear a skirt or not wear a skirt, and no one particularly cares 99.5 percent of the time. Trans women are normally coming off literally decades of being forbidden skirts and nail…

You aren’t diminishing anything, that is exactly what I was trying to say. But, instead of a parent giving me permission, it was me giving myself permission.

Am I the only one who regularly gets her period at night? Like, I wake up and find I have gotten my period. It really doesn’t start during the day, and hasn’t since I was a teenager. Is this just a weird circadian rhythm thing only my body does?

Not to diminish the unique nature of your experience, but your transition sounds a lot like teenaged girls practicing being women. A lot of us go through that same phase when we are first have permission to use make up, shave, and wear heels. I know I definitely had my “trying too hard” to be a woman phase, too. Being…

I don’t speak for all trans people but for me before I transitioned and the immediate period after I was focused mostly upon appearance. I thought, yes, I have permission now to wear this pretty outfit or makeup.

Honestly, I have never had a man stare at my breats in a boardroom nor have I gotten my period on the subway...does that mean I am not a woman?

Because everyone vastly overestimates their contributions to the world, and underestimates the damage they cause to it?