I think I said male-initiated. If you want to initiate sexting with your partner, knock yourself out.

Well if I was dating someone who wanted me to be their sex slave, i’d consider it. But if it was the other way around I don’t think I could do that.

How do you mean?

just trying to be a good person by my own standards.

Maybe I’d be different if I knew what attention felt like. But yeah, never been flirted with. Never had anyone been interested in me in that way, and I don’t know if I’d like it if someone was.

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never took gender studies. When I was at college, that class wasn’t a thing. And this is only for me. This is how I get through the day.

It might be. But that’s never been something I’ve been interested in. I’ve always been much much MUCH more interested in making my partner happy than in her making me happy. (using female pronouns here as a catch-all.)

sorry if I made you uncomfortable. Genuinely that was not my intent.

:) good one. Sorry if I made you uncomfortable.

How so?

if i was ever in a long-term relationship ( a deep impossibility), I would want to please my partner before myself. So whatever she was comfortable with is how far I’d go. I would not want my partner to have to worry about pleasing me.

here let me buy you this drink. let me tell you how beautiful you are. you’re now obligated to pay some level of attention to me.

not trolling. dead serious.

it’s because it’s always felt like “I want something from you, so I’m going to try and make you give it to me.” Like, I know there’s not really a female-to-male equivalent, but if there was, I’d be against that too.

I wasn’t trying to humblebrag, and I’m genuinely sorry if I came off that way. I genuinely just don’t want to coerce anyone into anything.

Flirting, male-initiated sexting, and all of that has always felt to me to be highly coercive. It’s why I don’t do it.

General ballpark. Not the 15-year-old part necessarily, but more the “sexting women with your uncomfortable and nasty-ass sexual fantasies because you think someone’s entitled to listen to you” part.

not trolling. dead serious. as a cis male, I always have to be wary about what I say and how I could come off. That’s why I choose not to involve myself in any forms of coercive sexual action.

Male-initiated sexting, and things like that, have always felt to me to be highly coercive. That’s what I mean.