I understand the point countesslemongrab was making; I just disagree. Vehemently. You get no credit in my book for "loving" your children if you reject them so fundamentally and treat them so poorly. Love had to be something you do, otherwise what's the point?

I think the point that countesslemongrab was trying to make was that these parents were loving their child, in their way. They have a narrow worldview, informed by a narrow faith but that doesn't alter that they loved their child.

"Love" is a verb. You can have abstract feelings of warmth or fondness toward your children, but if you're not behaving in a loving way, you're not really loving them.

Call me suspicious, but my guess is the "threats" were more along the lines of trans supporters coming to the funeral rather than any harm to the family. The "threat" was people not letting them pretend they were having a funeral a son who died in a tragic accident because people would be there loudly proclaiming that…

You may be suffering from selective psychopathy then. Some parents are shitty for no real reason. They tend not to get death threats. These parents were shitty for religious reasons and now they've lost a child for making decisions that for most of us would be easy to make. For them, it wasn't. They made the wrong…

Tim Tripp, pastor of the Northeast Church of Christ in Cincinnati, told NBC News that the funeral was moved because "the times and dates had been publicized, and the family's received threats."

Dan Savage had a great response to a caller in a similar predicament. I don't remember what his advice was but he started his response by saying that if every man who "expected" daily sex were the one getting penetrated/pounded, they'd all have veeeeeeeery different sexual expectations.

ETA: I think his advice…

Precisely. That's the benefit to being in an LTR. You might know what the other one looks like naked and it's not a thrill, but you have the safety and the security of another human being watching your back and loving you — something we're hardwired to want. Are teh boobiez really all that important at that stage? …

I'm weird about sex frequency too, but I think a lot of people are. I've been in (relatively) healthy relationships, but I still link sex, or the lack thereof, to my self-worth and the general state of my relationship.

I'm weird about sex frequency. My experience is definitely odd (maybe?), and I don't think it's all me.

I appreciate the analogy and your reply. I get it, I swear I get it as much as I can. As for people being unhappy and what they "should" be doing, I mean that people think they "should" be having twice a week and so they feel unsure if there's something wrong with enjoying less frequent sex. Or like in another thread,…

a) Women are often not the ones hung up on monogamy, it's the men. Or did you just mean "why are women hung up on the man not finding other partners"?

That's easy! All we'd have to do is:

My husband seems to think that everyone is always having more sex than us, so your post makes me feel better. I feel like a bad wife sometimes. I'm just so exhausted after work and I want to play on the computer and go to bed. Sex more than once a week feels like a chore to me. I could go a month (or longer) without…

People wouldn't be married very long then. I've been with my husband for 6 years and both of our libidos have changed over the years, we talk it through and compromise but I can tell you sometimes it really sucks. I'm not going to end my marriage though just because I have a higher sex drive than my husband, there's a…

So there you have it: Use it or lose it, and be game for anything, but it sure as hell doesn't have to be twice a week.

That 'in the mood' advice is really important. After a stressful work day (aka most days), I am rarely 'in the mood,' unless I've had some wine, and this is despite the fact I generally have a high libido. That doesn't mean I don't really enjoy sex during the week, however, and find it a great stress-reliever and a…

Am I the only one who thinks that twice a week sounds like a lot? Especially in a stable LTR/marriage - that's twice a week, every week, forever? I like sex with Mr. Peach just fine but we just don't get around to it that often because we're tired. Sad excuse, but dual income relationships with challenging jobs don't…

As an asexual individual, a lot of the sex = happy couple kind of goes over my head. Of course there are people with different needs that need to be negotiated. Say that you're picking a life partner based on their looks. Someday, those will change and you might not like it. Same with sex drive. I think what makes a…

Omg I've had this conversation so much lately with my friends. We are all married, in our 30s.... usually been with the guy for over 5 years.