I gave birth in a tub in a birthing center. Health insurance covered every last bit of it. I had some home visits from a doula in the weeks after and that was covered too.

1. I do expect to pay for my child's college. I expect him to go to college and succeed in college and it's important enough to me that I will pay. Grad school he is on his own.

My biggest expense was groceries for a long time and then the sports started. I dodged a bullet on hockey but we are looking forward to outfitting a growing boy for lacrosse come February. Fortunately basketball is cheap. Swim team doesn't need much equipment, clearly, but the fees on that are high. Though not as high…

I transformed myself when I was forty.

I wonder where their father is.

Sent to jail for abandoning her kids? That's rewarding candy theft with ice cream.

Remember swine flu?

I was surprised how affected I was by our marriage. Somehow the "forever" part didn't sink in until after the wedding. I was less tolerant of him for awhile after the wedding - the little irritating things he did seemed harder to take when I realized I had just signed on to accept them for the rest of my life.

how do you know they didn't know about it?

I think you are right, particularly in his age category.

I think it's true, though, that with a smaller space, you have fewer belongings. I am raising a child in 600 square feet. We don't own as much as people I know in the suburbs. There's kitchen cleanup at breakfast and dinner, but very other home obligations (which is what I want).

I appreciate the tips.

yes.

It's his marriage. It's really to him and his wife to work out what is reasonable for them.

You're the best.

I did feel bad, and I cried every day, as did my baby. It was a fucking horror show.

Wow. WHAT an asshole.

Back up husband? No thanks. If this one doesn't work out, I am going to give homosexuality a whirl.

I have never, ever seen that.

"Really, Dylan? Well *I've* got an Oscar."