I don’t think she was saying everyone’s kink fit patriarchal norms. Just that it’s a majority kind of thing. Certainly people do fit outside of the (nowadays) socially normal “man = dom and into rough sex, woman = sub and into receiving rough sex” kinks.

Yeah, and it seems like CBC fired Jian Ghomeshi really quickly, too - if you forget that they ignored or covered up years of sleazy and abusive behaviour.

Right on. This “I choose my choice” brand of feminism is perfectly unhelpful. Nobody is saying you’re not allowed to like what you like, but when they suggest that maybe you like something that you wouldn’t like had it not been for the toxic culture you’ve soaked up since birth, they’re not passing judgement on you as…

And she had a great line of “I don’t judge individuals but let’s say I am suspicious of how many dudes have fantasies that align perfectly with existing patriarchal norms.”

Yeah, this is really sounding similar to CBC and Jian Gomeshi to me.

I’m guessing the reason they’ve been so quick to distance themselves is because the Kink.com studios specifically were named as one of the locations where he sexually assaulted one of the accusers and they don’t want to be associated with that especially since I’d guess they know more stuff is coming out as far as…

While many of the allegations against Deen are new, the pattern is alarming.

Well, his public image prior to this was as the guy who was not a threat or disgustingly porn-y.

Cynical, but this is probably a CYA move on kink’s part. Guarantee higher ups in the company knew about him and did nothing because he made them money.

Stories of his abusive on-set behavior have been around for years without any action. This is more like doing something once it becomes a thing.

Jeez we spend all this energy and time promoting porn stars as our new idols and they let us down! Who will we look to next for guidance on culture, feminism and radical politics? (NB: Answer has to be in the form of a porn star)

He’s a man, and he’s a man tasked with illustrating male fantasies for men. Are you not surprised?

It’s not so much difficult as it is morally complicated. I mean in so many shows the idea of playing it safe and cutting your losses instead of risking it all and saving as many people as possible is villified. In Jessica Jones, we see actual ramifications for Jessica not just plugging him in the head instead of…

And that sting of Reuben’s death makes you rethink Jessica’s previous plan of capturing Killgrave in order to force a testimony. Had she just focused on the immediate threat of Killgrave and killing him, Reuben wouldn’t have died. It messes with your thinking of what was the better choice for Jessica to make, and if…

Or in my case, I appreciate Kilgrave as a villain, even though I don’t enjoy him. Because... isn’t that really the point of the character? To make the viewer uncomfortable?

That’s the thing, his humanity made him more interesting, but it also made him that much less creepy. I could understand Fisk’s actions, the guy was selfish but still human.

I think what turns you off is why I liked him as a villain. He seems like a real kind of evil that I could actually meet. Loki and Ultron were just cartoons imo.

Malcolm already had an interesting subplot of gaining independence, though. Rueben’s death meanwhile upped the personal score for why the viewer should hate Killgrave. I mean we already hated him, but with Reuben’s death the audience feels more immediency into Killgrave being taken out asap, as Reuben’s death stung…

While I do completely respect your reasoning (not going to try and convince you otherwise, of course):

My partner and I were discussing this this weekend. Kilgrave’s powers are the evilest by far. Mind control just isn’t a power for good. I can only think of a couple of telepaths that are good.

The concept of being able to get what ever you want simply by asking would be too empowering. It would lead to constantly…