Nobody cares if you whine on the internet.

I think it’d be an interesting idea if during storms Seamless/Grubhub/any other online food ordering sites put up a little notice on the payment & tip page being like, “FYI - it’s terrible outside and the weather is definitely making your delivery person’s job difficult! Since he or she depends on tips, won’t you…

If you order takeout in terrible conditions, you are a garbage person. End of story.

There should be a special state law that says if you make a delivery guy deliver without tipping him in the middle of a storm, he should legally be able to throw you down the stairs. The higher up you live, the more steps he gets to use.

So we’re supposed to go all covert and create a file on a dude before we start dating them? That’s not reality and you know it. Besides, controlling men don’t respond well to being “just friends.”

Duh, but you can’t tell which guys are going to be abusive until it happens. Knowing that going out with a guy could end in my death is just kind of a mood killer.

I had a guy do similar to me, 6 dates and I broke it off as I found myself becoming increasingly intimidated by him and how intense he was being. I was super careful to let him down gently, told him I just “wasn’t feeling it” and from what he had told me, we had different life goals (his included many children, mine…

That’s this dude’s MO. He is a concern troll who’s always “genuinely asking.” Pretty sure it was him arguing that the victim in the Brooklyn gang rape was possibly raping her attackers because she’s 18 and they’re minors. Disgusting.

glad you didn’t go. sorry you even had to worry about that. :(

You get how victim blamey this question is, don’t you?

How in the world do you “vet” somebody you don’t really know to determine whether they will end up as a potential murderer years down the road? I’m going to go out on a limb and guess this was this guy’s first foray into murder.

A guy asked me out: he was in my class, handsome and funny, very clever. We dated, and at each point I felt under so much pressure to conform to his ideal person. He would get pissed for petty reasons, denigrate me, a few times he physically hurt me during sex way past the point of enjoyable. He was completely…

I’m often surprised at which of my male friends have total meltdowns after a breakup. I was especially surprised back in 1999, when a friend of mine was talking about breaking up with his girlfriend, because he was bored of her, and he was at UVA and so he had plenty of options. And then a month later she broke up…

No. Specially at 18, when she started dating him.
I’m an old now and can smell all kinds of bullshit and really subtle controlling tendencies after a life of dating and meeting all kinds of people. But at 18, I think most of us who avoided controlling and violent relationships just got lucky.

You weren’t asking me, but no, I don’t believe you can.

And THIS is why I don’t date.