Question for you, is Jezebel comment section always this bad??? So many misogynistic comments with 60+ upvotes, I really don’t remember seeing this in any Jezebel article. What happened here lately?

Something tells me this is less “I’m being discriminated against” and more “I’m no longer being overtly privileged” complaining.

I’m a web developer and lucky enough to work at a mid size company that’s diverse and progressive. That is definitely the exception. It’s 100% true that the industry largely treats women like shit and the caricature bro-grammer is all too real.

This is sort of like being mad that the captain of the Titanic got so mad at you that they sent you back to the mainland in a lifeboat just as the voyage was getting underway.

I watched Audrie & Daisy* last night on Netflix. At the end of the film, during an interview with one of the perpetrators, the filmmakers ask him what he learned from the experience of being arrested and convicted of the crime of rape. This was his response: “Girls, they gossip...and you know, guys are more laid back…

EEEK! Run boys, it’s the attack of the 5 foot something women! (Or don’t run, sue.))

Yeah.

Even money says the guy uses “cuck” in sentences often.

Honestly, anyone who has been married and divorced twice is smart to think again before marrying a third time. Statistics are not on his side. *He* is the common denominator, and most likely, a third (and fourth, and fifth, etc) marriage wouldn’t last. I’d gather that he has a fundamental problem (or several) which…

"Words mean something, rape does not mean 'not feeling like having sex but then deciding to have it anyways because your partner wants to.' "

Actually, that is often what partner rape looks like. Being pressured or coerced into sex that you don't want to have is rape. If you really don't want to, but cave to demands…

I can completely understand that, especially the feeling triggered, not wanting sex, doing it for maintenance, then feeling even worse. I think that for people who have experienced sexual violence, sex can take on a very different meaning, and for those who haven't experienced it, it's tough to get. For my current…

I'm also a survivor and was wondering how far down I'd need to scroll before someone brought up how difficult maintenance sex can be for people with abusive backgrounds. I have had successful maintenance sex before, but I've also had a lot of really awful experiences because the feeling of having sex while not really…

like, i'm just overly sensitive to these things because i've always felt close to my partners whereas they were always standoffish with me about anything related to intimacy. So i got used to taking care of myself, whether it was treating myself to something i would enjoy or masturbation. I didn't want to pressure or…

Let me guess...you haven't given your wife an orgasm since the kids were born. :D

It's something I struggle with. I can understand that someone would feel rejected, unwanted, or frustrated with a sexual relationship with me. I've definitely tried those things, but usually, I sort of need alcohol anyway, and I try not to drink so much (I have middling success with this). I want to be open to…

maybe this is why i'm single, but the mere thought of someone having sex with me when they're not gagging for it themselves makes me uncomfortable deeply. Like, I've handled my own business before so I don't know what about this is supposed to be a good thing. Are we so selfish, as a people, that we can't handle…

The idea of "maintenance sex" makes me feel resentful.

Not to sound too trite here... But on the notion of the whole 'men are always horny and women must take care of men's sexual needs to maintain a marriage' thing: why aren't there any articles on how men should tend to women's needs, if they want that nookie? Like, hey, men, you want your woman to be turned on and give…

Sex twice a week? Are these people newlyweds? What a novel concept. Try being married for 20 years and see how often that magic moment happens. Once you hit about 40 or so, your idea of a great time is 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep.

Yeah, no. I used to try to do the "maintenance sex" thing but it just made me feel crappy about myself and resentful, and that's not healthy for anyone involved. As I've gotten older, I realized that it's totally normal in a long term relationship for there to be times when sex just doesn't happen for one reason or…