That's true! I have heard that for men as well. But there's not the same connotation of playing hard to get, it's something else.

Seriously. He definitely sees himself as some kind of victim of "self-involved princesses" who can't see that's he's a Good Guy.

I dated a guy sort of like this and he also used to say "I'm not political, I'm practical" in explanation of being a Conservative. Ugh.

I think it's sort of ok to just do the fade-away or half-ass response if it really is just like one hook-up or one date (even more ok if it's solely been online). Unless you can get the perfect "hey, I've had fun but..." (I can't even think how to end that) you risk being overwrought and coming off like you think they…

I honestly have no idea what this means. What was he trying to say in faux old-timey language??

Wasn't the dating mantra for women always to wait like three days before responding to not seem over-eager? I think that's total bullshit, but maybe it's a good screening process to see who will reveal themselves as a complete asshole when you don't ask "how high?" the minute they say jump.

The visa issues alone make it challenging to believe. I think they used to address it early on but realized it was pretty much hopeless.

I was always desperate to find the gin and tonic non-alcoholic substitute when I didn't drink - I almost ordered juniper berry soda off the internet once! I feel u.

You're welcome! And thank you - I'm glad it was helpful!!

That's what gets me about these arguments. To me, it sounds like that guy's cousin was probably in an abusive relationship. But rather than try to advocate for support for victims of domestic violence of all genders, he'd rather turn it into "women are terrible and now we can't even hit them". I think that…

I think the only option really is getting far, far away from people who like to come up with scenarios in which violence against women is ok and/or rape isn't a real thing. I like to think it would be nice to "educate" them but at what cost to your own sanity? Teenagers sometimes do grow out of it though, once they…

Ugh - I feel like guys who argue this way just demonstrate their inability to think statements through (or frankly think at all) or to do any sort of research beyond subreddits. How twisted can your worldview be that you can make arguments like that? I'm glad you are no longer friends with this person - he sounds like…

I suppose, I've definitely had some text-only arguments that sounded ugly. But 3 months into a relationship to have her apologizing for having an "annoying" voice and being told to stop chewing gum are honestly the big red flags for me, moreso than his accusations that she had been flirting with someone else. To…

I get that it bothers you because condoning violence between anybody is not a good thing! I think the best way to counter that is to try to challenge the idea that women are weak and/or irrational (prone to meaningless small bouts of violence), challenge the idea that men can't be victims of dv - WITHOUT dismissing…

Ugh. I'm sure his next argument is "if you really care so much about equality, can I hit women then??"

I heard recently that vaccination rates are really high in developing countries because people have first-hand experience of the diseases and are eager to prevent them, knowing the damage/death they cause. The US anti-vaxxers have benefited from decades of vaccinations and don't really believe in the diseases they…

I feel like this is an indication that the judge might not really know the dynamics of relationship abuse. Those texts really had a lot of abuse red flags, and to dismiss it as "dynamic and unpredictable" is disappointing. I was kind of on board with the verdict so far before reading this, now not so much.

So wait. "Typical Jezebel" loves men now? Especially male artists? You can't have it both ways. I can't decide if I like this art or not. It's got the standard try-hardness of anything Miley does lately, but there is something interesting about the way it's put together and how busy it is.

I know people who go to the hospital for migraines even when they know what they are, and know it's not a stroke. It's usually people who can't take triptans and really need some intense pain relief (narcotics). I doubt that's what's going on with Kanye, he probably went as a precaution since "the worst headache of…

Totally agreed. GGG doesn't mean go outside of your own boundaries or pressure someone to do something they aren't comfortable with. He has to correct this often, I think people guilt themselves a lot with it when they have unreasonable partners.