Seriously, all the stars! My company used to be so damn incestuous like this, and it was awkward for everyone who knew them when people inevitably broke up! Just don’t do it, people!

Those are a lot of areas with like 4 people in them. I worked in VT in politics for the Democrats, after growing up and going to college. My FIL is in the legislature. I know the politics of the state. It’s not the universal blue that you’re thinking, even if looking at the pretty NYT map. VT was one of the first…

Right! Everyone is shocked liberal VT is on this, but I grew up in a vastly different state than it’s reputation across the nation portrays. It’s so white, you can get snowblindness in the summer, from all the bare legs.

Vermont went for Clinton because of Burlington/Chittenden county area and the UVM students who never left after graduation. (I like to tease my grandmother that the nice flatlanders have outvoted her native racist ass, so I’m glad that she’s voting in VT and doesn’t really count. Don’t discount the power of the…

All of this you mention with FL and TX falls under the “it’s a nice place to visit, but I wouldn’t want to live there,” saying. They’ve got garbage policies on helping people in need, with a “live and let die” attitude. This wouldn’t ever come out in a routine visit. If you get hurt on a visit, you might see…

You should have included this with the OG post. I am ashamed I am showing my age when this wasn’t even on my radar. Your wit is dry and sharp, which I applaud!

OMG, they do?!? FUHHHH, I never get anything there for less than 40% off, but they wouldn’t hold those sales unless they weren’t still making a profit on that. I don’t do Hobby Lobby for the same reason, so fuck them too. Looks like I’ll be driving 40 minutes to JoAnn’s!

Except in Trumplandia, pinko is no longer an insult. It’s just, ya know, another way to talk about our good friends from Russia.

Why should it be their responsibility to sit down with someone who harassed and intimidated them, to educate his sorry ass? I really don’t like him trying to put this on them. I wouldn’t want to be forced to spend time with my attacker. Fucking privilege, apologize, take your lumps like a big boy, and go educate…

This was at least 7 or 8 years ago, because I didn’t have kids at the time. It’s one of those things that could have either increased or decreased over time, but for my face, neck, and upper chest area, the cost was $600. (This is in pricey CT, so it could be less depending on where you are.

Ah yes, but in both VT and CT, where I’ve lived my life... the quality of life cannot be overstated as compared to many of the other states I’ve visited. (As in “nice to visit, but I sure wouldn’t want to live there.”) We moved young and childless to CT, started from the ground up in a condo, sold and used the…

Holy shitballs, please make sure to use the dismiss button! Some of these other comments in the greys make me nauseous.

They keep changing that shit. I’m barely lucky I know when to sit, stand, and kneel anymore! Plus, Catholics like me are barely tolerated by evangelicals now. After martial law is called and the constitution is suspended, I’m fairly sure it’s only a matter of time before they come for us pretenders.

Thanks! It’s easier once you’re on the other side, which I now am... but my god, getting here was easily the second hardest thing in my life. (The first hardest thing was adjusting to being a parent with my son!)

Thanks! One of the many perks of getting older, is just not giving a flying fuck about always “being nice.” We are walked all over, because we are socialized as women to be unfailingly polite and have to bite our tongues. My husband was gobsmacked the first time that he was there when someone layed into my case about…

It is surprisingly effective. It’s just like when someone asks “how are you today?” and are shocked when they hear anything other than “good/fine, how are you?” in response. Nobody should be all up in anyone else’s reproductive business, pro or con, but if they’re going to continue to insert themselves there, I’m…

Maybe you could rent his for cheap. It’s already used!

Stop restraining yourself. It was the only reaction that I had that seemed to get through to the dense and insensitive people who would pry into our lives. “Are you one and done? Don’t you want to give your son a sibling?” “Why yes, but after years of infertility, interventions, and several losses, it may not happen,…

When we were in the darkest days of our infertility but before I’d convinced my husband that we really did need assistance, I had this happen to me. I reached a point where I would attempt to turn the discomfort back on them. I would be explicit about our difficulties, about how no matter what was done and what…

Well... as someone who is finally pregnant after several years of infertility and losses, (we got pregnant this time LITERALLY the month we were supposed to start the IVF treatments, which happens the cycle after you do all the invasive testing,) I can say that regimented and specified sex can be a chore. There is…