Here’s the thing about being the child of a parent who abandons you, and then subsequently the child of a loving stepparent: IT’S NOT THE KID’S FAULT THAT YOU LEFT AND SOMEONE ELSE WANTED TO LOVE THEM. My own mother is super bitter about the acknowledgment my stepmother gets on Mother’s Day, but you know what? If you…
Or he transformed himself to look like women he is attracted to.
Wait, you’re black?!
I think I just need to get comfortable, myself, with that idea. I’m sure he’d be fine with it, and the mental block is mostly of my own making. Maybe start in an already-private space, like during a bath.
Thanks so much for sharing! Your comment is a great reminder that some women just plain don’t enjoy the experience. I like the comparison to massaging too.
I didn’t enjoy it until very recently (I’m 32), but I grew up in a very sheltered home. I didn’t have anybody that I could talk to about what I was feeling as an adolescent so I blossomed very late and had warped views on sex. I have a generation of younger relatives and they trust me enough to come to me with these…
Here’s my situation: because of how our schedules align, I am rarely home at a time when my husband is not. Therefore, if I’m feeling in a sexy-type mood, I feel weird about masturbating instead of initiating sex. I feel like it would be awkward and would break the mood if Husband walked in on me, so I don’t want to…
I don’t masturbate because I don’t “get” it. While I know that other people like it- to me, anything you do to yourself doesn’t feel good. It’s like rubbing your own shoulders vs. how it feels for someone else to do it. The body part is the same, but the sensation is totally different. I just don’t get excited without…
I can kind of understand it though. I was a late developer apparently (compared to my mates) and I only realised I could get myself off when I was watching a documentary about Madonna, and they showed a clip of her performing Like a Virgin on the Blonde Ambition tour. I literally went to bed that night thinking “i’m…
Hahaha, yes, a lot of women can really hone in on their technique. I’ve heard of women who can get themselves off in under 30 seconds. What about teasing yourself a little? Get close to the edge of orgasm, then take a break, then resume and repeat...
I have definitely found that to be true.
I think that’s true, but it’s probably not a cause and effect relationship. Rather, both are an effect of having a higher level of sensitivity, thus being able to orgasm easily. After all, if you can get off easily, masturbation is much easier and more rewarding, so you are much more likely to do it often. And of…
I love hearing from the masturbation fans out there, but also want to welcome the women who don’t like or don’t “get” masturbation to chime in. There’s no shame in not having figured out what works for you, or in just not liking it altogether. I would love to hear more about your thoughts/feelings/experiences!
Yes, I think that’s excellent advice! I’m covering vibrators in a separate article, but (spoiler alert) little breaks are all you need to do if you notice yourself growing acclimated to vibration.
It’s possible to build resistance if you masturbate with a vibrator too often. Usually when I feel that happening, I’ll just stop for a few days, maybe a week, give my cooch a break, and the sensitivity will reboot so to speak. I have carpal tunnel, and I face the same issue - my hand starts to cramp and tense up…
I was widowed 6 years ago so my Hitachi Magic Wand is my frind. It works just as well for me now as it ever did, so, no, I don’t think you’ll need a stronger vibrator as time goes on. You may have to try several before you find the one that’s right for you. I find the descriptions and reviews at Good Vibrations quite…
Kardashian Dialectics 1) Hating the Kardashians came first, in small part because they objectively made the public sphere worse off, and in large part out of snobbery. 2) In response to the haters’ consensus, loving the Kardashians became cool, because it’s counterintuitive and contrarianism is cool. The love became a…
Oh, my goodness, no! If ever we “crack up,” it’s because we’re charmed by the eccentric reading tastes of some patrons (e.g., a patron who regularly requests novelizations of a certain early 2000s-era teen drama series that aired on the WB). I don’t think I’ve ever witnessed any library staff person describe a…
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