I don't think this will get seen this late in the day, but hopefully you, the author will see this, and know that I have read every single comment and am personally as disappointed in this as I would be if you were shaming women for their vaginas. Think of the pain and anger you feel when you are personally shamed or…

Please please don't be sad. I'm not even a 'giving lover because of it' person, I'm a 'my ex left me because the shortness of my vagina was dissatisfying enough to him that he couldn't come' person. I don't know if you're single or not, and I left a longer comment to someone further up, but it is the one thing…

Just randomly, my feet are long and narrow, so I always have toes sticking out of my sandals, otherwise their too floppy. I didn't realise this was a toe length thing, maybe if I go a half size up on sandals you can adjust the horizontal straps on, I'll get a better fit. Thanks for the random info, its a whole new…

Don't be sad, doggy style is the bomb! And reverse cowgirl, and the wheelbarrow, and... um sorry, got overzealous. But yes, there are many positions that would beat out missionary if I came across that.

I think he made a good point about how what for women we may consider harmless comments can actually be hurtful and shaming to some people; it's important to present that side, that's what the comments are for.

I feel like I've seen Lindy say something about how it's just as bad as other shaming? Here on an article, a comment or somewhere else on the webz? It surprises me other writers do, and that no ones called them on it publicly till now. It seems like a very odd thing for a site against using female body parts as cuss…

I was just reading through this thread, wasn't going to comment but I saw this comment and it struck me pretty hard, and I just wanted to jump in and say I'm really really sorry for what pain you've had, and what thoughtless comments were directed at you (or your vicinity). I really truly hated sex when I first…

Oh My Goodness, the fact Hildebrand is our most hard hitting journalist (and not actually hard hitting) and he's a comedian causes me all kinds of rage at our country. Everyone knows as a country we have racial issues, yet no one wants to admit that they're part of the problem. So frustrating.

Of course I don't mind a guys response. He's an old boy friend, so not a problem. And yes, there were definitely some issue at play that had nothing to do with me. Thank you for all the feedback; they're definitely things that'll be looked at. The reason I crowd-sourced is because all of his negative issues have led…

Not that I know of, I use latex often at work so I doubt that's the problem. (That sounds like an odd profession; latex gloves)

Thanks! The kegels are a legacy of an old medical condition. It never occurred to me it could be causing problems now!

Yeah, they seem to actually be earnestly defending their position, so I thought maybe they just had a combative style of writing but obviously just being combative is their aim and I don't play those games.

Yeah, I checked out of the conversation... Probably the best troll I've encountered in all my years, they're almost like a person who actually believes they're right, which is a bit scary..

See you are completely misrepresenting everything I say. Again. Which seems to be something you do.

It really depends on where you are and who you are. Legally, it's getting better, and for individuals. But as a whole, no, the country is too comfortable with overt racial stereotypes and discrimination.

Yeah, I would definitely say we are not a kind people to our Indigenous, New Zealand definitely has us beat. I work with indigenous people, have for years, and grew up in a northern town. Moving to the city for university, I have heard the most vile things said. Tonight I just wanted to ask some questions about why we…

So I'm starting to think you are being purposely confrontational when there's really no cause to be. Not one in this whole discussion have I stated a blanket definition for cultural appropriation, no matter how many times I don't, and you then try and twist my words or tell me what I'm saying, I won't? Wanna know why?…

I obviously didn't give an expanded enough telling of the story. No ones trying to ban anyone from playing the didgeridoo, the Nicole Kidman thing worried many elders, who contacted her, apparently there are rituals to try to appease the spirits she could have disturbed. It's not a law, or even tribal law, it is just…

Thankyou! I've realised a large part of the problems was probably me forever trying ex bf giving me relaxing massages before hand so I would relax enough to have intercourse... with warm oil... So them the condom breaks, which stresses me, causing me to clench, which pulls the next condom off, which means I can't…

Hmm, I haven't tried one, I've used dildo shaped objects before, but I wasn't really co ordinated enough for the whole shebang. It's like there's parts of me that have normal feeling and parts that are so numb its like touching your own arm when its dead, you sorta feel the pressure, but not really. I think that will…