I obviously didn't give an expanded enough telling of the story. No ones trying to ban anyone from playing the didgeridoo, the Nicole Kidman thing worried many elders, who contacted her, apparently there are rituals to try to appease the spirits she could have disturbed. It's not a law, or even tribal law, it is just…

Thankyou! I've realised a large part of the problems was probably me forever trying ex bf giving me relaxing massages before hand so I would relax enough to have intercourse... with warm oil... So them the condom breaks, which stresses me, causing me to clench, which pulls the next condom off, which means I can't…

Hmm, I haven't tried one, I've used dildo shaped objects before, but I wasn't really co ordinated enough for the whole shebang. It's like there's parts of me that have normal feeling and parts that are so numb its like touching your own arm when its dead, you sorta feel the pressure, but not really. I think that will…

Me too about the respect thing! Indigenous Australians have formed a large, media savvy and politically active, while still being diverse, community. It helps that the government after a few disastrous projects, is far more willing to get social scientists and indigenous leaders into the planning and implementation…

I don't know why everyone's assuming I'm finger wagging about the didgeridoos? Nowhere in my post did I state an opinion to or for non-indigenous people or women using them, all I did was offer up a factoid about an awkward situation caused by cultural differences.

Oh wow, erasure is the most heartbreaking thing I think we can do as a species :( Just completely invalidating someones lived experience is like telling them they're worthless.

I'm not sure if maybe you're not understanding that I'm talking about a specific type of appropriation that happens in Australia. Yes there is cultural crossovers and getting inspiration from anothers culture. But indigenous art is a series of dots and lines done in particular patterns that forms a language of sorts…

First I'm glad there's at least acknowledgment. Second, it sucks that there is still racism. There is so much in Australia too it makes me ashamed of my own country sometimes. But see, I'm a red head, so I have so soul, so I can't feel shame (actual quote from racist I was arguing with). We aren't JUST racist, we are…

Ah yes, I've been following that in the Gawkerverse, I thought once people realised there were protests they'd get rid of it, but my googling led me to believe that aboriginal Americans are a very small minority, without a large enough voice and no legal standing :(

Oh ok, everyone s mentioned that oil is a no no. Soooo, all those back rubs to calm me down followed by sex probably weren't the best idea...?

Thank you so much! Yes, my next appointment is actually in 8 hours, that's why when I saw the post I thought it might be my last chance to crowd source ideas before facing the awkwardness again.

Ok, that is interesting! We used to say aboriginal and really rude was 'aboriginee', I don't know when/why it changed, or even who decided. All I know is once I got to university it was the indigenous people of Australia, Traditional owners. But since different tribes own different parts everyone just sticks to…

Hmm, I guess we view it differently then. I see it as her being alone and with a strong look on her face, annoyance or anger. When I'm in that position it's right before I swing around and stalk off after having a tantrum, so maybe I'm projecting.

What the hell is this supposed to be?

First, that movie is awful.

Thank you for your reply, so basically they do it on purpose for the attention? Do the artists/models do the same thing, or are they bullied into it. I have to admit, Pharell seems a bit rich man sheltered in some of his comments lately, so maybe he hasn't seen negative comments in the past..

I'm wondering if their may not be some internalised old school racist views making it harder for them to separate a coloured woman from her sexuality. Rihanna is known for being sexy, but she seems more 'in charge' in the pic, maybe they view it as sexually dominant instead of submissive?

It's more what the poses suggest. Nobody wants the female form just existing to be so sexualised that children can't even see it; that leads to a puritanical backslide similar to hardline Islamic coverings, except puritans start with long skirts/high necked tops, no bathers type of thing, not a headscarf.

I'd much rather my sisters see her totally in charge like this, than the current jeans ads we get, which are always half naked, wet or oiled up, sexual and rapey...

I don't understand why fashion editors still have these just laying around. In my country the indigenous people also have sacred items and you would never ever want to see a didgeridoo on the front of a magazine even being touched by a woman.