No, I don't practice kink. I have no interest in it or need to participate in it. Call me old-fashioned or unhip, but I prefer plain Jane emotionally fulfilling, fun, sweet lovemaking to being punched, kicked, flogged, tied up, or what have you. That's just my preference. I also think latex clothes are sweaty and…

Having to join a social media site to meet others within the scene to go to dungeons and "kinky dinners" isn't exactly welcoming everyone with open arms, and it's certainly not generating any discussion of consent outside of the insular group you hang out with, nor is it counteracting any of the "wrong" beliefs and…

Hi, I fit into my airplane seat. I am not the dude you sat next to on that one flight and yet you're coming to me to complain about it. I honestly don't care about your airplane story. Please take your sad tale of woe and tell it to someone who worked for the airline, not some random chick on the internet you assume…

It's funny, I don't watch "Homeland" but my boyfriend was so delighted by the way this scene was handled that he CALLED ME after the episode was over to describe it to me and rave about how they had an actual human fat woman portrayed as a sexual being (without it being a joke) and that he weight was not a big deal…

Who gives a flying fuck? Me. You don't get to throw dirty looks my way if I'm sitting on a plane or eating in a restaurant where I have every right to be. You don't get to fetishize me. You don't get to treat me like a fuckdoll behind closed doors and pretend you don't know me around your friends and expect a pat on…

As a fat woman, BBW has zero positive connotations for me because it has been co-opted by fat fetishists and (as the piece above says) porn. If a man were to ever tell me that he loved "big, beautiful women" or used the shorthand BBW at any point, I would run for the hills. Same with "fat admirers" and "chubby…

It depends on where you live. I live in a city where a car is an absolute necessity because our pubic transportation system is far from perfect. Everyone I have known who has decided that they don't need a car quickly becomes the most annoying person on earth — the costs of owning car get transferred to others in…

Jian Ghomeshi is a creepy abuser who is using "kink" as a cover-up for his terrible behavior, but what continually bothers me about pieces like this where an experienced "kinkster" (and, lordy, how that word makes me cringe) proselytizing about the "rules" of kink and the "right way" to beat the shit out of your…

Then be a gentleman and turn the TV on, and keep matches or a candle stocked in your bathroom. Problem solved!

I get that, but couldn't that be resolved by just matter-of-factly telling your date/one night stand that you are having some stomach issues, and then excusing yourself and using the bathroom? Leaving twice to shit somewhere else is just bizarre, and the fact that she ends up pooping on a beach is disgusting and…

There is a special hell for any women who shame other women for pooping at work. I have never experienced it, but you know, I have a whole slew of digestive issues. If I have to go, I am going. God himself could not stop me. I'm not going to suffer all day long because Cathy likes to single out women who poop and then…

Not really, I figured the point was to be stealthy about it and not let on that you're pooping (which is why you can't do it in a more convenient bathroom), even though going out of your way to use an inconvenient bathroom on a different floor is pretty much the same as announcing, "Okay, I'm going downstairs to…

Do women really think that guys don't know what we're up to when we use a bathroom that's far away and inconvenient to use? He knows you're pooping when you chose an inconvenient bathroom far away from him. Everyone knows you are pooping when you do that.

Wait wait wait. So, she hooks up with this guy, and then leaves his house/apartment/whatever on 2 separate occasions to poop? And ends up pooping in public, on a beach, because she could not bring herself to poop in the vicinity of a dude she just got finished mashing genitals with? This is completely bizarre. Call me…

I actually really like her music but it gets increasingly difficult to just enjoy her music without remembering every stupid, fucked up, insensitive, tone deaf thing she's ever done. The list keeps growing longer and longer. Even more upsetting is the fact that on her FB page, in response to her post about Jian…

Wait, so his response to someone hurting another person without consent was to "beat the crap" out of him, without consent? You may want to find some better examples of how healthy and consent-driven the BDSM community is...

Ugh, Gene Simmons. The actual meat of his advice isn't terrible: It is important for women to be independent, to chase their ambitions, to prepare for the worst cast scenario that your marriage might not work out and you may be on your own, to put cash aside for life's "flat tires," and to set yourself up to succeed…

I'm not much of a morning person either, but I have fine hair that looks like I haven't washed it in a week if I skip a day and also looks like a tumbleweed when I wake up, so morning showers and hair-washings are necessary for me not to look like Edward Scissorhands. I am envious of people who can roll out of bed and…

I'm sorry that happened but I don't think that's the standard and most HR departments would never, ever stand for something like that. I don't think most female employees are expected to go full Joan Holloway at work, but a little effort to look neat and presentable goes a long way. Appearance does matter, but it…

Not me. I am out of bed and out of the door in 30 minutes: 10 minutes to shower, 10 minutes to put on clothes and blow-dry my hair, and maybe 10 minutes for my make-up routine (usually less but sometimes eyeliner is hard in the morning). I usually have time leftover to pet the cat and pack a lunch before I go. But…