I'm older and know the life of not sugar-coating. What I once believed was a virtue, is a cop-out. Part of being civilized is to live the truth, speak your truth, and to be kind. Sometimes truth needs kindness, not sugar-coated, but gently told. Another way. It is not just one way or another. We must learn how to…

I don't want women to feel pressured to be nice all the time, however I have never liked the implication that people who are not nice are somehow inherently more "real" or "truthful" than others. Sometimes the not-nice things someone says aren't truths, they're just opinions, the opinions of someone who has a bleak…

But, but- WHAT ABOUT THESE POOR RAPISTS' BRIGHT FUTURES??!! WON'T SOMEONE PLEASE THINK ABOUT THE MENZ?

I agree, this gave me mixed feelings. I mean, obvious the violent reaction by the mother in this situation is completely unacceptable. I'm not condoning it.

That said, I think the behavior by this woman was reprehensible. Speaking as a mom of kids with autism, and someone who works with kids on the spectrum, I've…

I would agree from having worked with this population that it probably isn't most of them who identify it that way to themselves. OTOH in my experience this is a group with WAY less insight than average and very little perspective into how other people have feelings separate from theirs.

The awful thing is I doubt they'd see someone and go "go ahead call the caps they can't fix your face (after I physically assault you)". Even serious non-sexual violence is seen as recoverable from.

How you and your attacker are treated after rape seriously affects how you recover. I for one am a kickass example of…

"Why didn't you report your rape?"

He didn't show poor judgment. In fact, he showed excellent judgment. As soon as he saw he became symptomatic he called the authorities and went to the hospital.

The author of that article also didn't go out with the guy again, so just because she wasn't openly rude in a public place doesn't mean it worked.

Wait, is that a problem?

Wow, #notallmen in RECORD time.

Turnabout is fair play, so...

With all of the horrific details in this story, THIS is what you're horrified by? Too bad her real name isn't used. If it was, maybe you could contact this girl, who was brutally raped by someone she trusted when she was 15 goddamn years old, that you're disappointed in how she reacted at the hospital during her…

So let me get this straight:

White folks get *real* interested in black children when they can get a black adult in trouble

Yeah, the crazier something is, the less I want to make fun of it. The end result is still someone masturbating in their room, so what do I care what's going on inside their head? It's the original fics on ASSTR that are super violent, but also super realistic... those are the ones that make me go, "mmm, you've probabl…

Honestly, I get tired of saying no. Sometimes, I'll say yes to some crazy shit (not dangerous or irresponsible) but something like "we'll have an indoor picnic because you asked" sort of thing.

I get her point in that the parent shouldn't be afraid of their child's tantrum and give in. I get that she is speaking out against the parent creating more work for themselves (now there are 2 sippy cups to wash).

I think the standard should be, "If an adult made this request or stated this preference, would you honor it?" For instance, most adults have a few foods that they don't like to eat, and that is reasonable. If I were cooking for someone who hated mushrooms, I would be happy to avoid mushrooms to please them. …

Another man's ownership of you holds more water than a "no." Its the saddest thing in the world. And even if you are brave enough just to say "no" or "not interested"...my personal favorite follow ups are "are you a bitch or something?" or "relax."