I would argue that telling women to be cautious increases the number of rapists who get away with it.

We have that discussion, over and over and over again. All it does is outline circumstances under which it's okay for men to rape.

What they want is a return to marriage, fatherhood and divorce being property rights issues. Men used to get the kids routinely, because children were property of the father. If he wanted to dump them on the mother and move on, he could do that, too, paying only token support or none at all.

Have you tried the Episcopalians? Among other things, they ordain women and gays. They vary from church to church, with some congregations being rabidly conservative, but lesbians at the altar is a genuine thing. There's also some variance between how high or low individual congregations get with services, but most of…

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I had to look up Mayor Filner, and was confronted with the creepiest smile I've ever seen. Thanks for the nightmares!

The cases would have been hugely improved from the victims' points of view. They could have had the opportunity to quietly get on with their lives, probably in another town, but still. They would have had a chance to start over.

He had a good attorney, loads of character witnesses, and my father as an ally of a sort, plus a statute of limitations that was less forgiving to victims than it is now. There was probably some probation on top of the two years.

Society is not refusing to change because people don't testify. There's been plenty of testimony. Victims have tried and tried to be heard, but the bottom line is that society doesn't want to listen. Society values rapists over their victims. We found that out with Steubenville. The victim came forward. The town told…

When you are actually on that platform, you find out fast that it's the worst place you could possibly tell your story. Actually dealing with the legal system even when it's at its kindest (I was a child when I was attacked, so I got off very easy with the law) is a real wake-up call.

The rapist is probably going to walk out anyway. Mine did. After a decade or so of molesting every child he could get his hands on and raping as many of them as he could, the guy I helped arrest pled down before worse cases than mine could be brought on board. He did two years. He's not on the registry. I checked.

Most people don't consider literary erotica when they're talking about porn, even though women will pay for it and generate reams of amateur material for each other. I'm not sure what the deal is, if we think it's not real porn if real people aren't involved, or if it's like ignoring lesbianism when we talk about…

Men pay more for sources of visual stimulation? Okay, I'll accept that, but how does that relate to them having a higher sex drive? Visual stimulation is just something that is made to their tastes in large quantities.

Yeah, he's a troll, but he helped me clarify my thoughts on this. Also, he illustrated the level of willful ignorance that abounds. His arguments work because a lot of people don't understand how human reproduction and contraception work, and they don't want to. They just want to scream about Hore Pills and welfare…

Failure to use or use properly can result in getting exactly what you deserve. That's biology women. It is not biology but the law which dictates consequences to the man.

I'm so sorry! I offer futile internet rage on your behalf!

Reliable contraception for women is by prescription only, which means doctors can deny access, either because of legitimate medical reasons or because they feel like it. Pharmacists can deny access because they're Catholic or whatever. Expense can deny access. If something costs $500 and you don't have $500, you're…

I'm so sorry to hear that! What was the reason/excuse?

There is no "use it as directed every time." Even in a best-case scenario, things happen that create larger than clinical failure rates. Women vomit up their pills, prescriptions are the wrong strength, rings are dislodged, and that's just for starters. Condom user error is entirely outside a woman's control. The only…

Are you serious? Total protection? Where is this total protection? The best thing I know of is the Mirena IUD, and not only is it expensive and sometimes difficult to get, it's not 100%*.