Cracking up...

You are so right, this is the quintessential non-apology. We know it so well. And of course she gave even less of a fuck because Dr. Lee is Black. You are preaching to the choir.

Yes. She's sorry she got caught and that is all. This is all about, as many have stated, the expectation that as a PoC or woman and I will go further and say a younger woman that you are expected to work for peanuts or for nothing because of your status. I am not a scientist but I am a published writer w/stuff in…

Yeah. I've wondered how much his problems might have to do with the high heels all of these years. I really can't imagine his moves of yore wearing those (clearly) 3-4 inch heels. Not to mention that I imagine him just always wearing them day in day out even when not performing. He doesn't really seem like the type to…

What you did sounds like the best course of action. If you are feeling this and even overheard her talking mess, you've done the right thing.

Cynar and orange juice.

This sounds like fodder for an essay. Even if it's just a writing exercise.

First I will grant you that most people are shit bags, BUT, not all people are shit bags. You've just got to find the right folks. I do empathize with your obvious frustration, I have been there and at 42 I am just coming off a summer of being blindsided by a couple of people (not a role model thing really), but the…

I think he can't really dance any more. It's my understanding that he needs a knee replacement and won't get one b/c of the Jehovah's Witness blood transfusion thing. Hence his appearances with canes at awards shows the past few years.

Proving again that humans don't have anything else to do...ever.

Wait is Lady #2 implying she hasn't cleaned her oven for 10 years or is my reading comprehension off? If it's the former why start now? I'm always amazed at people's ideas about cleaning or lack thereof. That was me judging by the way.

Ahh thank you. We have to do it you know? It's the only way...

Here's the thing, she is not doing anything wrong if she's being who she is b/c that's who she is. She doesn't seem like that's who she is. She's still figuring it out, which is fine. The cultural appropriation and exploitative bullshit, well that was wrong and irresponsible but a dichotomous mark of essentially still…

Certainly I understand what you are trying to say. It is very sad for her that clearly she had neither had nor currently has any guidance or support (like so many others). My parents did a lot of shady things but they did give me a solid, fairly healthy foundation from which to work when it came to this kind of stuff…

This.

"Out there hundreds of Chinese people have pictures of a confused black girl (myself)." I chuckled heartily at this. I haven't had to many ask to take photos except the instance I described. Others have asked if I rap or sing or some other foolish shit, to which I reply in my best Miss Sophia voice "Hell no." and…

It takes lots more than a just barely post-pubescent lil girl to shock me. And boy do I have stories, but of course not the point here. She is just doing too much, and yes, sexually. But that's kind of it for me, none of this is sexual but she thinks it is. It makes me sigh. It takes a long time for people to figure…

This little girl, she just makes me sigh. My goodness. Just. So. Much.

This is true. And I wanted to share this because you reminded me of this experience I had. I was traveling in Turkey where a family w/two little kids wanted to take a picture with me. Why? I am not a celebrity or highly esteemed intellectual, it's because I'm black and presumably have big wild ass hair. One of my…

As evidenced by why she apologized in English. Racists make my ass tired. My philosophy has always been that while it's not right you can say that shit all you want in private, just don't let me hear you saying it. Then it's on, and however "on" manifests itself, well, you know that all depends on the circumstances.