I can think my daughter is beautiful and still consider correcting a minor cosmetic isssue, especially one that is most easily corrected within the first six weeks of life and would require surgery if she wanted to fix it later on.

I gave birth to my daughter, my first child, two weeks ago. She is beautiful and perfect and I am happier than I have ever been in my life. When she was born, I noticed that her ears looked strange, flat where they should curve and sort of elvish. The doctors told me it was just how she was positioned in the womb and…

It could be. I obviously liked it enough when we looked at it back in April, but I think once you’re actually living in the space it’s different. I am not great with transition, like I get very attached to spaces. Even though our last apartment was kind of gross and shitty, we lived there for three years and it’s hard…

Thanks, I’ve looked up all the design tips online. I like the hanging drapes high idea best. Right now the walls and ceilings are both white, but I think our lack of furniture currently is also drawing attention to the exact amount of space. Once we get a couch and stuff it may start looking more proportionate.

My husband and I just bought our first apartment, and I don’t love it. I’m having a little bit of buyer’s remorse. I am mostly upset about the 8 foot ceiling height, which seems really trivial, and I feel like an asshole complaining about it, but the building next door is pre-war and I keep looking at it wistfully…

In ninth grade, when they announced on the loudspeaker that the second plane had hit the twin towers, the girl sitting behind me in French class asked “Oh my god, do you think this means the O-Town concert is going to be cancelled?” I thought that was the last I would ever hear about O-Town.

Man, I wish I could afford a surrogate. I’m 35 weeks and being pregnant sucks a million balls.

Came here to say that. XoJane resurrected.

I actually had started the book before the program. I was writing a memoir about my eating disorder, but then decided to write it in third person and fictionalize it.

I need to find a writing group for sure. I am just so hard up for time to do anything. I think putting the novel away is good advice. I need a new project.

Yes to the mediocre male confidence thing. I feel like it’s exactly that.

I am really frustrated at work. I write content for a marketing company and blah blah it’s boring, but it’s my first semi writing related job. Anyway there is this other guy in my department and he is clearly the favorite and they are letting him edit and basically telling me my work isn’t good enough. I am 7 months…

And teeth. Please show someone with an eating disorder who has fucked up teeth. If you want to caution young women against eating disorders, let them know what it does to your goddamn teeth.

I am aware of that, I meant more like what are you supposed to do with terminal results at the point where you can’t terminate, not literally why get tested at all.

That’s so true. Why do testing around the 20 week mark if there’s nothing you can do with the results?

I have always been pro-choice, but pregnancy has increased my conviction tenfold. I live in NY and had amnio at 17 weeks. The safest time to get amnio is between 16-18 weeks, and it can take 3 weeks to get the full results. That means, by the time you find out your child has a genetic defect, you could be 21 weeks…

Phoebe Robinson’s interview with him on So Many White Guys addressed this more in depth.

I think you meant to reply to the comment above mine.

My thoughts exactly.

Thanks, I do listen to a lot of TED talks and read stories about people who are living with amputations and I do take comfort in their strength