"I'm not sure if she's a racist, or just an amazingly nasty person."

This is also important, because she mentions getting information from not just Stanley, but her editors and the editor-in-chief. As in, not only did Stanley write this piece, but it went through an approval process of probably many editors before it was finally pushed to print and online. It went through many hands at…

That is an excellent read, thanks. I kind of skipped over it earlier because, frankly, I was so angried out on this whole stupid story (stupid in the sense of the original Stanley article was so fucking tone deaf that I was just raging in my head over it) but it's good to get a more considered look at it.

Thanks for that - I particularly enjoyed this paragraph:

Also last month Stanley wrote a piece after Joan Rivers death which was a hatchet job. I'm not sure if she's a racist, or just an amazingly nasty person. Either way, no reason for her to be writing for the NY Times.

I'm curious what you make of these attributes, "tone-deaf" and "out of touch." I say this because they suggests a lack of awareness or old fashioned feeling, but the article is really just racist.

But I'll say this much: The readers and commentators are correct to protest this story.

Alessandra has been employed at NYT for years and this isn't the first time she's written a tone deaf article. If they're going to continue keeping her on their payroll after this, then I don't want to hear what anyone at NYT has to say. They're choosing white supremacy and publicity over dignity.

This piece by Linda Holmes of NPR – who interviewed Rhimes right after the Times article blew up – is an excellent read. Holmes includes some of Rhimes' thoughts on the matter, but she also explores how she struggled with figuring out a balance between asking Rhimes to talk about diversity issues while also wanting to…

The thing is that I wouldn't be having this conversation if Jezebel hadn't covered the damned thing with two posts (that I've seen). Has it really garnered that much attention?

The point, though, is that even if the 2-year-old could, not relaxing her hair doesn't make her hair unkempt or inappropriate.

In St. Louis, if you're black and you're driving in Ladue, Chesterfield, Clayton, Town and Country, Kirkwood, Webster Groves, or any number of West County suburbs, you're liable to be pulled over for driving while black.

It must be terrible for black parents to have to tell their children "Even if you're unarmed, even if you're well-behaved, even if you do everything right, there is still a chance that a white police officer will murder you in the street with your hands up."

So concerned that he couldn't just be an adult and have a conversation about it?

Look, you obviously aren't "owed" sex when you're in a relationship, but sexual intimacy is important and if you don't feel like your needs are being met in a relationship you have every right to voice those concerns. A list is perhaps not the best way to make a point, but a guy isn't a villain just because he…

And you missed my point. The idea of "real Black women" is bullshit. There is no "biracial" look. The fact that people thought Keshia Chante, a biracial woman, to play Aaliyah is telling. This is about colorism, not blackness. Zendaya is too light to play her. That much is true. She is not, however, "not Black enough"…

I believe many people are getting confused when some make the statement, "Could they not find anyone black to play the part?" Reference color and not ethnicity. You can be "black" and not be African American. There are many black latinos, such as black puerto ricans, black cubans, black columbians, black brazilians,…

Oh please. Look at that photo of Aaliyah. Yeah she's "black" but the main difference between post slavery black Americans and biracial black people is whether it was our parents or grandparents who gave us our mixed features or whether it was someone farther back. My family is "black" but I have a great great…