If you could make my facial expression into a gif it would say more than my words ever could. I’m scowling, but then I’m surprised, but still scowling (relatedly: I think I need an eyelift).

Yes!! The one about choking also really stuck in my memory... Was this from the Jim Clemente and Laura Richards podcast? I think that’s where I heard it... But, if anyone was going to know about DV risk, I feel it might be Laura Richards, given her vocation during her career.

I’m so sorry the justice system failed (I’m assuming it did, based on your comment), but I’m thrilled you are in what sounds like a great city, away from her. And my heart bursts with happiness for the lovely life your dogs have :)

As an outsider, what I find so frightening about the U.S. mass shootings is that they seem to occur basically any and everywhere... Like, malls, universities, cinemas, elementary schools, churches, stores, high schools etc... You can’t even be like “well, in order to minimise my risk, I won’t go to XXXXXX” because…

OMG that portrait shot of your late, elderly pug is incredible! Admittedly, I am a dog lover, so I am more open to recognising the beauty in dogs than your average person, but I seriously think he looks super cute/beautiful in that picture. (If I’d met him, I would’ve definitely cooed and tentatively sussed out the…

❤️❤️ I’m sorry.

❤️ You are a truly wonderful person doing great things. Thank you. I’m glad you give those dogs a happy life in their later years/days - especially when most other people would never give them a chance.

One of my favourite things about puppies/dogs (at least most that I’ve seen - perhaps it depends on breeds) is how their paws (at sometimes ears, but, ALWAYS paws) grow a bit faster than the rest of them and they end up with these big, ol’ oversized paws 😍😂

So sorry for your loss <3 I lost my dog in 2009 (after 12 years of companionship) and it was fucking devastating (I only bring that up in an attempt to communicate solidarity and sincerity - I feel like sometimes people will be all like “sorry about your pet dying” without being able to comprehend the depth of the…

In that case, I’m sorry for jumping the gun and calling him a scumbag (I was typing a few comments that referenced some really garbage people I know, so I think my mind was primed to assume and type the worst about people). I’m glad you worked it out in some way. And I 100% get the deception being more hurtful than…

This is a very valid point. I’ve had friends who’ve snooped and found out stuff that has devastated them, but they can’t confront the other person without saying they snooped and have continued on with a lot of resentment (the one friend I’m particularly thinking of was in an awful, emotionally abusive relationship -…

Fuck. That’s awful. I’m so sorry. The same thing’s happened to a couple of people I know. It’s brutal.

I saw the title on the main page and thought “this sounds like it could’ve been a pissing contest”... and then I clicked and saw the tag!! XD *love heart eye emoji*

My mum’s best friend is named “Julia”. One day she received an email from her husband (of 20+ years) that was clearly written to his mistress... Who, it turns out, was also named “Julia” (he’d sent it to the wrong “Julia”). He was, for this and many other reasons, a huge idiot/asshole.

Oh no! I’m re-listening to it... I don’t endorse the quality of the whole thing, but I still think there are like 20-25 secs (total) that are relevant to this topic.

While I haven’t seen the movie in question, I am more or less familiar with who Marquis de Sade is... (Insert 3 of each of the horrified/frightened/dead emoji faces).

Exactly! I literally just commented on a different thread that he isn’t a prankster; he’s a predator.

“But he’s a prankster!”

I’m so glad you’re okay now. I imagine it might be harder to realise/identify abusive behaviour in a lesbian relationship because, at least in my mind, in most of our abuse narratives/schemata the abuse is perpetrated by a man on a female partner... On top of the fact that it is always crazy difficult to reconcile…

Thank you for using her actual name.