One of my good friends goes to Al-Anon because of her dad’s alcoholism and she says it helped her a lot- to feel less alone about it (it’s something that’s hard to discuss with people who haven’t been exposed to it), to feel more at peace with it and to accept it as out of her control. at the least, you would have a…

that is gorgeous!

If you haven’t read it before, I really like Captain Awkward’s advice web page (captainawkward.com) because she has written extensively on “Darth Vader boyfriends” and gaslighting. It can be a huge mind fuck unlearning everything you thought you knew about someone, so it's comforting (still a really shitty situation)…

I’m so jelly. Have fun!!

Yay! Enjoy your much deserved vacation! :-)

Oh man. That's terrible.

Would star 20000 times if possible. Most succinct description ever.

Do you keep your basil plants in full sun or partly/fully shaded? I had one on the front balcony that got a lot of sun during the daytime and it withered up into brown nothingness. I love basil but haven't figured out a good temperature/sunlight strategy yet to get another plant.

Oh my god!! The cuteness!!

I’m so sorry to hear about your health issues. I hope everything goes smoothly. Sending a gentle hug!

Once when I was an undergrad, I went on a first-date to a concert with this musician. I noticed that he was extremely quiet on the way there and pretty much through the whole show and afterwards. I was starting to feel really worried that I had said something wrong, because I kept trying to chat the whole night and he…

It is not surprising, inasmuch as reading the news articles about some of the broader, completely despicable decisions made by large corporations do obviously indicate an utter lack of morality. However, it is interesting to consider a better understanding of it on a micro level, because on the one hand, being bold…

This also reminded me of an interesting story. Many of the rich families that I knew and the one I worked with were very high up business executives. I’m a Psychology graduate student, and our department had a visiting scholar that does research on Psychopathy. We were talking about his research at dinner and I asked…

Yeah absolutely, not a silly question. From my experiences in Europe, an au pair is hired as part of a cultural experience/exchange,so there are stricter rules such as certain number of hours per week that you can work, you have to speak a different native language than your host family (to allow for cultural…

I can definitely understand that. It doesn't surprise me that they would ask that. If you look up research articles about au pair abuse, it's so sad how little the law supports your rights. I can't believe how little so many of them pay and how much money those people actually have, and the ridiculous expectations…

To follow up on that, in my experience I felt like there was literally no room to compromise or negotiate about anything, because I was supposed to be super grateful to get to live in a huge house and experience that. And also, some rich people seem to have extremely fragile egos. I was only given one day off (Sunday)…

I’ve thought about that a lot because of my bad experience as an au pair, and I think that it’s partly because they think that you should feel super grateful to be able to “ride the coat tails of the rich” and secondly, they really think that they are better than you, because they are so rich, and you aren't. Having a…

Former au pair speaking, and I can vouch for that. The pay was minimal (though the family were millionaires), the expectations were ridiculous (towards the end they would get angry when I left the house on weekday evenings,) and their entire attitude was that lowly me should be super grateful to get the amazing…

Ahh!! That's so creepy.

That story is amazing.