Eh, things may be different where you are (where I grew up was very snobby and clique-y), but even if they aren’t, she will deal with it and move on to better friends. Get her involved with things that interest her, because kids are less clique-y in little clubs and stuff than they are in what I like to call “gen…

I don’t know if it will be an issue for her per se, but down the road it might be an issue for her friends. I had friends when I was very young that, once we hit high school and it was clear that I was a “poor” and they were not, were not particularly interested in being friends anymore. They were taking trips to…

Dear Mike Huckabee: We “redefined” marriage when we outlawed polygamy and instituted tax breaks and other civil benefits for it...

My current fictional crush. He even understands enthusiastic consent!

You know, the hubs and I have been together forever and I haven’t really had any “crushes” in many, many years. Truth be told, I find men who flirt with me now annoying (I wear a wedding ring - I find it kind of disrespectful). Other than the occasional celebrity, I don’t really find other men attractive anymore.…

The whole “I just don’t agree with homosexuality” thing never ceases to amaze me. It’s like telling a left-handed person that you don’t “agree” with their left-handedness. I wish I could live in blissful ignorance and pretend people that stupid don’t exist.

Holy shit, no way. Where was CPS when this girl was growing up.

And since they apparently base their entire “heritage” on a four-year period of time...

Seriously. I buy clothes that make me happy. Not because I think I look attractive to men (which, in my line of work, is definitely not what I’m going for) but because I feel happy in them - they fit right, they’re comfortable, they make me feel confident, etc. Some men think the world revolves around their penises…

I’ve always worn make-up (foundation, eye shadow mascara) to work, but about six months ago, I decided to act like a grown-up and get some new make-up, including eyeliner. The first day I wore eyeliner to work, my male coworker said, “Oh wow, you’re actually wearing make-up today.” Uh...

Its also a confusing message because, if you think about it, America’s standard of beauty is “thin.” Our models are thin. Our actresses are thin. Our more famous porn stars are thin. Of course there are exceptions to each category, but that’s the norm. Yet it’s the curvy girls who are “too distracting.” It’s like…

Depends on where the interview is. Like I said in another comment, I work in a professional office environment where cleavage, short skirts, and bare shoulders are perfectly acceptable. If she’s applying for jobs in fashion, obviously a crop top and high-waisted bottoms would be acceptable because that’s what’s…

This “dress codes prepare you for work” argument is bullshit. I work in a fairly large city with great shopping in an office environment, and there are plenty of straps, cleavage, and short shorts, and because it’s all designer fashion, it’s perfectly acceptable. Also, when I worked retail, we were actually required…

Her parents, from what I read, were real religious and anti-abortion types and they adopted, I believe, 3 Black children from Africa to support their “abortion is an option” stance. Then, at least I heard, they abused all the children and shipped at least 2 of them off to group homes, which is why Rachel moved for…

I don’t think it depends when talking about enthusiastic consent. Even if the person being pushed doesn’t fear for their safety, having to talk someone into having sex certainly does not rise to the level of enthusiastic consent.

I think you did the right thing. As far as “keeping the mood,” I don’t know what you could have done in either of those situations. Relationships don’t die because of one bad sexual encounter; I would re-examine what else was going on and whether something else contributed to the end of the relationship.

This is the problem right here. Consent is not rocket science.

I think everyone is misunderstanding enthusiastic consent. In my experience, when they say “enthusiastic consent” they mean a solid affirmative - “yes,” “let’s do this,” *takes off pants and opens legs*. I think the term “enthusiastic consent” is being used to negate coerced sex - the kind where one person doesn’t…

LOL at the men who think that their penises are so large and mighty to permanently change a woman’s body.

But MRA reasoning leads to stuff like this - ideas like “women just report sexual harassment to gain money/attention” inspire an anger against sexual harassment victims that is simply not justified by statistics or research. I’m sure most MRA’s don’t condone rape either, but saying things like “she was asking for it…