Thanks for that! This is literally one of my deepest fears...

Yup, same here. Ended the teasing (though it also quelled any romantic interest in me by boys I did like) and I was also anorexic as a teen and liked the feeling of swimming in clothes. It was big t-shirts and sweatshirts for a long time for me.

Very mature. My parents are happily married. I work with abused women.

And if they’re like most divorced parents and can’t reach a consensus on anything ever?

It’s not really an “activity.” It was a concert. Should dad ask mom permission before watching any PG-rated movies with the kid? Should a parent have to ask the other permission before buying her music? What about books - should they have to ask permission before letting her read a book?

Bullshit on the article you were quoting in your comment.

I’m calling bullshit on all that. My first time hurt like a son of a bitch (oddly, though, no bleeding) and I didn’t have any “medical problems.”

I think in the case of the truck rednecks, they probably woke up that day and said, “Let’s take some young girls out into the woods and have our way with them” (this happened in a small town).

I can understand that, but the guy seemed pretty adamant that I could have beer or whisky *only.* He acted like he was completely unwilling to make a mixed drink at all

My mom used to literally throw us kids out of the house and lock the door.

When I was 15, a friend an I were walking home when a truck full of rednecks pulled up beside us and asked for directions. They were probably in their ‘20’s. We gave them directions and they drove way, but then they came back and said they could not find where there were going and could we please get in their truck…

*Internet hug*

After my middle school administration did nothing about sexual harassment (they considered “peer mediation” a good solution) I carried a pocket knife in school (a tiny one, maybe 2 inches long) with my father’s full support. I felt so unsafe and even though I never had to use it, having it made me feel a little better.

Your trumpet teacher TOLD YOU TO DO KEGELS?!? Good God, I am so sorry. I have Asian-American friends and I know you ladies have to deal with so much bullshit of the sexual harassment variety.

I think I would straight up swing around and elbow him in the groin.

Nah, sneaking a peek here and there isn’t a huge deal. It’s more the boys who openly stare, “accidentally” bump into your body parts, snap bra straps, etc.

That whole “you’re too sexy/you’re hideous” paradigm really fucks with your head.

Ugh middle school boys are the worst. I developed early too. All my little, undeveloped friends had boyfriends and had their pick of the boys. I just got boys snapping my bra straps, staring at my chest, and asking me totally inappropriate questions about my sexual experience (because large breasts automatically make…

Be there for her, teach her that no one is entitled to touch her without her full consent, and, most importantly, be interested in her life and talk to her. I have an amazing father, but during puberty he (and my mom) were dealing with other stuff and didn’t pay much attention to me. I acted out by doing things that…

Same here. I always have to be careful not to go “full hippy” when buying clothes for work...