This is how you respond to someone who gently told you that they’re a survivor of domestic abuse?

Dude. This community is full of trauma, we come here to help each other.
 

There’s been a bunch of fighting (and, in addition to fighting, trolls) for a while now. This is what happens when they don’t ungray good commenters. A lot of the old guard have left, and there’s no new blood.

I too am sick of a male POV dominating every single post. There’s a lot of dope female voices here that are being drown out. You’re being defensive about a space that doesn’t belong to you, no one has been rude that I have seen. Don’t shit on people who are thoughtfully expressing their feelings. Your need to comment…

Hear, hear. I’m kinda tired of the first comment I always read, on a feminist blog mostly for women, is written by a dude, usually this particular dude. And his response indicates he seems tone deaf as to why that in and of itself is problematic.

Copying this comment I made to Mortal Dictata to myself because I am not a “troll” but I’m trying to prevent my comment being dismissed just because I disagree:

I understand that it’s hard to learn from criticism and you really did get piled on last night, but please try. Please?

And now we are being dismissed by Bear Woman for offering up our comment history as proof that we aren’t one person with multiple burners.

Since Bear Woman keeps dismissing my attempt at discrediting the “same person different burner theory,” I’ll comment here.

THIS! I have no dog in this current fight, but I’ve also been here since the beginning, and there are always “top dog” commenters who seek out that status, and MD is certainly one of those people. It’s weird, because most of those commenters have some sort of niche expertise or insight that is actually valuable, but…

I’m not talking about how women sometimes mistreat each other here, that’s human nature and will happen. I’m talking about how a 20 something dude muscles in on almost every post on a feminist website. It’s rude and he doesn’t care, read his gaslighting b.s. responses in this thread. This is my last Jez night, I’m…

You do have some good insights. You also have moments where you dig in and refuse to cede any points to someone else, which can come or encompass mansplaining, and it can be exhausting for those of us who experience it in real life so often to also have to deal with it not just on the internet but a site like Jezebel.

This is exactly my problem with him and the space he takes up. I actually enjoyed a post about the Olympics (I aggressively don’t give a shit about sports) and I realized that it was because all the comments were ladies speaking passionately and cheering a woman athlete on, without a single MD post in sight.

But it is the same as white people being the most visible on the root. We don’t need men (and this happens in waves on jez every year or two) to be the loudest most frequent in the black commenters. It doesn’t leave any air for the quality posters still languishing in the grey to be heard.

I have been active in this space since 2007. I have seen many prominent commenters come and go. The problem is not with the current system. The problem is with people thinking they ought to be top dog or have prominence in some way. People come and go. Sometimes they are men, sometimes women. The people who last are…

Men are just so used to people letting them fill up a space they are baffled when asked to let someone else have some air. I don’t want a men’ free space. I just want men to not be squatting on every thread about women when they have nothing to add other than parroted feminist phrases. We don’t need you to parrot us.…

Well said. Start a blog if you want uk politics discussed. I am not American so I generally skip most politics posts that are American specific (pre trump at least!) But i dont write and research and link to politics in my country daily on an American blog that isn asking me to be a writer.

The core problem is that you don’t care how you come across to other people. You want to say what you want to say and you don’t care how it is received (or rather, how it is received will not stop you saying what you want to say).

I can tell you that if you are actually trying to be aware of how much space you take up, it is not showing. Yours always seems to be one of the top two or three comments on a lot of articles. And quite often only at most 10 or so comments actually have significant amounts of replies. So if you’re always posting early…

“I’m not doing them for vanity’s sake, I’m doing it because even if it’s just a few people who enjoy it they still want me to provide them.” And