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I just want to make sure what you’re literally saying, which is that the presence of a person with boobs and a vagina is going to make men unfocused and undisciplined to the extent that they will get people killed. Ok.

That “just doesn’t sit right with me” feeling? That’s the patriarchy. It’s not your fault! But that’s where it comes from.

Sounds like the problem has more to do with the men than the women.

I hate to do this, but her posing in a wheelchair like it is some sort of sexy glamorous accessory is actually a bit more than “semi-offensive.” If someone wearing, say, a Native American headdress as a costume is considered extremely insensitive (as it should be) and inappropriate, how is this any different? People…

I’m currently 33 and am completely independent save the $50 birthday check I get each year. At least I thought I was, until a few days ago when my father suggested kicking me off the family cell phone plan and I reacted as though he had asked me to sell my kidney.

wat...

He’s openly identified as straight. I think it’s kind of shitty to not take him at his word on that. It’s no one’s place to question his identity.

I’ve just been thinking...I feel funny calling myself a victim/survivor of abuse/rape/sexual assault. I feel like, I’m just a woman who’s had boyfriends and had the ability to escape from them. That just makes me fortunate.

THIS THIS THIIIIIIIS! I can honestly say it was reading Jez and interacting with commenters on Jez that helped me realize all this. So until a couple years ago, I always prioritized men’s feelings. Now, since NOT prioritizing their feelings often results in violence (including verbal and psychological abuse), I…

sometimes it’s worth it to have a conversation about what you did and didn’t like, and to talk about what consent means to YOU.

To my knowledge BLM has never shot up anywhere or killed anyone. When I was interviewing for a job for an organization that works with abortion we had to meet at an undisclosed location for safety reasons. I had to sign that I wouldn’t tell anyone where we met. Anti-choice fuck nuts have killed and bombed us. They…

I understand. You are correct.

This person is a victim of abuse. She is not the right person to talk to about your previous rapey behavior, and having engaged with her, getting a (predictable and unsurprising) response like she gave isn't grounds to call her names and be a jerk. If you want to be an ally, you have some learning to do about how to…

It really sucks she had to teach you how to treat her as a person.

Come on now. If you don’t want us to judge the entire male populace on the basis of one rapist, you shouldn’t dismiss the entire feminist movement on the basis of one man-hater. You know most of us aren't like that, just like most men aren't like that.

Could you be more condescending? I don’t know your history, and I don’t know if you’re a rape survivor, but ad infinitum is a rape survivor and you’re acting like she doesn’t know what the hell she’s talking about, which is fucked up. The “Does that makes sense?” is the condescending cherry on top. If you read her…

Oh good. A whorephobic rape joke. Never heard that one. Good stuff.

I agree with that definition, but since you mention consent, a rapist’s motivation absolutely matters because it affects how effective teaching consent is. Rapists and any adults that have that rape mentality cannot change their spots, but there is hope for the future generations. By teaching the importance of consent…

Using power and control to get what they want isn’t the same thing as what they want being power and control.